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can 7 month old be naughty ????????????????????????????????????????

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muma3 · 12/01/2006 17:28

opinions please

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bobbybobbobbingalong · 23/01/2006 23:37

Ds was around 17 or 18 months when he walked into the kitchen and went towards to fridge. I said "not for Bob" as I had been doing since he started crawling, and he looked really relieved, like he was glad that was still the rule and he understood it.

Deliberate, willfull naughtiness (just for the sake, rather than for another reason such as tired or ill) has only just started at nearly 3.

The main thing at any age is your reaction. If there isn't one the behaviour is not worth repeating.

Hanjan · 23/01/2006 22:58

my dd is 10.5 months and is still hitting me in the face and gets very cross when i tell her no but i think the key is not to laugh at it or else you are giving the impression that the behavior is acceptable. I don't think that babies at that age are naughty but to a certain extent you can try and not encourage the behavior. Easier said than done sometimes- I tend to find myself in fits of laughter

nooka · 23/01/2006 22:08

She's not deliberately hurting you (and therefore naughty) but you don't want her to learn that making you go "ow" is OK. Little babies don't understand about other people's feelings for quite a long while, but they are learning. So as others have said, make sure that you discourage her from this behaviour (and removing from the scene of the crime is probably the best approach). My dd used to pull ds's hair for the screaming at a similar age and it certainly upset him! We had to get him out of the double buggy and on to a buggy board to stop it happening (16 mth gap between them).

GDG · 23/01/2006 21:45

er, no!

babiesrcool · 23/01/2006 21:43

My mum keeps telling me that I need to start telling dd off when she pulls hair. I promise I will do it in the future and will stop her turning into a little bully, but she is only doing what every child does. By the way this is the same mum who now thinks she was very strict with my brother and I.

Feistybird · 17/01/2006 09:30

No.

Enid · 17/01/2006 09:27

of course not [cross emoticon]

cod · 17/01/2006 09:23

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Kelly1978 · 17/01/2006 09:22

def cna't be naughty at that age, but it seems like it and it is so funny to watch. dt1 was winding dt2 up today, holding out a straw to him then yanking it away at the lat minute and scuttling away. He obs thought it was great fun. they are 10mnths.

mummytosteven · 17/01/2006 09:05

No. Definitely not. Sounds like typical baby behaviour to me!

colditz · 16/01/2006 23:32

My ds finally learned the meaning of 'NO' at about 10 months, I think. He was crawling towards the video, put his hand out for it, then stopped, shook his head and crawled away.

It was very sweet and amusing to see.

Agree with other posters though, your friends sounds a bit nuts, just put her down when she hurts you.

starlover · 16/01/2006 23:27

muma just to echo everyone else... all babies do it!

my 11 month old STILL does it. despite stern words, putting down, pulling hands away etc etc... he just likes to do it and he doesn't understand why he shouldn't
how is that being naughty?
he doesn't know that what he is doing is "wrong" any more than your daughter does.

and as for throwing the dummy... well you wait until she's moving... she'll be throwing everything she can find!!! lol

teabelly · 16/01/2006 23:23

Muma just spotted this thread...your dd is perfectly normal my dd is doing exactly the same and I agree wholeheartedly with wheresmyfroggy, she can't know it's painful because she doesn't understand the ability to cause pain for someone else yet - that will be learned in the next few years. She definitely likes the fact that it gets a reaction. I do as froggy says and put dd down when she does this, removing her from the situation means she gets a reaction she doesn't like and will hopefully stop her repeating it another time and stops me from getting mad at her when it feels like another chunk of my face has been pulled off

FWIW dd also chuckles loads - esp when she pulls ds's hair and he shrieks - reaction again! And I'm positive they understand more - infact sometimes I'm certain dd has been here before - too knowing for her own good sometimes

wheresmyfroggy · 12/01/2006 18:02

She can't possibly understand that she is causing pain, she just likes the action she is carrying out and the response she gets from you. She is using her senses to explore and learn.
Putting her down when she does it will be a response she doesn't enjoy so much so may deter it.

muma3 · 12/01/2006 18:02

maybe not nessecarily the word no but like i said they do understand a change in tone ( i dont tell her no it was an example )

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beansprout · 12/01/2006 18:02

It's not worth assuming that your baby is being naughty. She is not, she doesn't know how to at this age. She is programmed to explore and learn. Apart from eating and sleeping, it's what she is doing every single minute of the day. It's up to us to work around that a bit. So, if you don't want her to hit you in the face, and hey, why would you, just put her down and get her to do something else.

Spidermama · 12/01/2006 18:01

My 11 month old pinches and twists my skin because he likes the reaction when I scream 'Ow!'.

It's not malicious. Just genuine interest.

beansprout · 12/01/2006 17:59

7 mo babies do not understand "no". Ds is 14 months and I distract him if I want him to stop what he is doing. He doesn't understand "no".

SnowmAngeliz · 12/01/2006 17:57

but muma3, she 7 months, you can't say a 7 month old has the same knowledge as, say a 7 year old.
Babies LEARN empathy.
She is acting totally normal IMO.

muma3 · 12/01/2006 17:53

she does know what she is doing that is obvious , so why are children older called naughty and babies arent?
surely they are all just finding out what they can and cant get away with and they all test our reactions but when (and they can tell the difference in tone of voice ) i get cross or say "no" she keeps doing it .
she knows im not happy with what she does so that in any other child is classed as naughty right?

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HRHQueenOfQuelNoel · 12/01/2006 17:46

I don't think she's being naughty, or being a little 'rascal' - but I do find it amusing how on one hand people can say "oh they don't understand" or "they don't know" about babies this age (and younger) yet at the same time say that babies "learn" things about the way we react with them - either they can learn things, and understand things this young or they can't (FWIW I'm with the "they DO understand a lot more than people make out at this age" camp )

muma3 · 12/01/2006 17:44

i think it was just meant as " oh she is going to be a little rascal !" kinda?

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SnowmAngeliz · 12/01/2006 17:44

muma3, honest they're all like that.

SnowmAngeliz · 12/01/2006 17:43

yes, your friend is barmy.

muma3 · 12/01/2006 17:43

i just find it funny because she laughs when she has done it !!!
she will smack me then turn her head as if hiding then do it again !!
she has become very violent towards me recently too ?

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