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AIBU To be sick of people making others feel bad about their election choices?

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AKMD · 04/05/2010 11:22

Yes I will be voting conservative, not that it is anyone else's business and no, I really don't care who you vote for as long as you have carefully considered your choice. I will not judge you as a person or 'defriend' you if you vote a certain way, although I will feel exceedingly sorry for you if you vote BNP. AIBU?

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ahundredtimes · 04/05/2010 11:23

Not unreasonable

a tad twitchy and prickly perhaps?

Kathyjelly · 04/05/2010 11:30

No YANBU in the slightest.

I enjoy politics because we get to talk about a subject that most people avoid for the other four and a half years of each parliament.

However, I hate the assumption that anyone who doesn't vote in a particular way is somehow stupid, ignorant, selfish, lazy, mercenary or to be regarded with contempt. I've never met anyone who didn't have something good about them.

AKMD · 04/05/2010 11:40

Twitchy yes :D Was going Lib Dem but can't stand another 5 years of 'Mandy' jumping in every time something happens instead of his boss.

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ahundredtimes · 04/05/2010 11:56

Well, there we are, you've 'carefully considered your choice' and I'm not judging you for your choice. Oh no.

jeee · 04/05/2010 11:58

Have you heard of the concept "secret ballot"? You know you don't actually have to tell anyone how you intend to vote.

TheProvincialLady · 04/05/2010 12:01

It's part of adult life. Don't tell anyone how you intend to vote if you don't want them to comment/deride you for it. A lot is at stake in this election and feelings are running high. If you are proud to vote Tory then do it and say so, but don't act the victim because other people think that it is a stupid or repellant action.

FiveOrangePips · 04/05/2010 12:01

It is all part of political debate innit? I like it, I think mn is really good just now, I am spending loads more time on here than I have in ages, - funny, intelligent and passionate debate - what is not to like?- and well mn does thrive on the nest of vipers stuff too.

I wonder why anyone could make you feel bad about who you are voting for?

Floopy21 · 04/05/2010 12:13

If you tell someone who you're going to be voting for, expect debate. Especially if you're voting Tory FFS!!!! If you don't want to be judged/derided/made to feel bad, don't tell us.

mistletoekisses · 04/05/2010 12:18


If you feel this way, don't say who you are voting for

If you do, then prepare for possible debate.

I am voting conservative. I have my reasons. If people then want to judge/ pigeon hole me, couldn't give a monkeys.

AKMD · 04/05/2010 12:19

I'm not fussed about people judging me for voting Tory but I am so sick of seeing threads with titles like 'to take "friends" voting Tory personally?'. It makes me wonder if the parties are paying people to start these threads and makes me really cross because, as jeee says, it's a secret ballot and no one should be made to feel bad about their personal, secret choice, whether that be Tory, Labour, Lib Dem or Monster Raving Loony Party.

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 04/05/2010 12:20

YABU - that is why politics is one of the 'taboo' subjects. Only bring it up if you're up for a heated debate. You just will regret it, otherwise, and end up with issues with friends etc.

That is also exactly why a ballot is secret.

mistletoekisses · 04/05/2010 12:22

Then put your side across on those threads. I did the other day. was a good old tory bashing thread...needless to say, i killed it.

AKMD · 04/05/2010 12:23

But who ARE these people who think that voting for a mainstream (or not) party makes you a wicked person?

As I said, I don't feel bad about my choice, just cross that people try to make others feel so.

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mistletoekisses · 04/05/2010 12:27

They are possibly people in very different circumstances to you. People who feel so passionate/ scared about a possible outcome that they feel the need to lash out at those who say they are voting tory. I really wouldn't give it too much thought.

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 04/05/2010 12:27

Ok, then YANBU - that is very immature behaviour. The whole point of democracy is recognising that we all have different viewpoints and a country ought to be run according to what the majority viewpoint is. What would be the point of voting if everyone was going to vote the same way? People can hardly be surprised that some people will vote for a different party to themselves!

The people I hold in contempt are the people who get sucked in by some arguments. I know someone who has been totally drawn in by one party, even though he doesn't actually live by similar principles. He's been sucked in by getting chummy with our current MP. Bit pathetic really! And I'd think it was pathetic whether he had been sucked into the party i was planning to vote for or their oppposition.

runnybottom · 04/05/2010 12:28

YANBU. Unless a person IS voting for the BNP, in which case they deserve everything they get.

KurriKurri · 04/05/2010 12:28

Do you seriously not judge someone as a person if they vote BNP? I do. I think people who hold disgusting racist, homophobic views deserve to be challenged. And if they end up feeling bad about their choice, then thats good.

mshadowsisfab · 04/05/2010 12:31

vote for who you want, I only judge people who vote BNP or women who don't vote.

wombfrootshoot · 04/05/2010 12:31

I would totally "defriend" someone who voted BNP.

I wouldn't be friends with a BNP voter in RL or on the internet. And before anyone says "but you don't know how people vote" I think I can be pretty secure that none of my mates are vile homophobic, sexist, racists.

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 04/05/2010 12:32

Oh yes, and BNP voters I would always judge, I'm afraid. I like to think I'm above all that, but I just cannot not judge someone who is either very gullible and don't bother to read between the lines or very racist and those are the only two reasons for voting BNP that I can see.

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 04/05/2010 12:33

Oh yes, and homophobic, mysogynist etc. etc.

sethstarkaddersmum · 04/05/2010 12:37

I agree it is annoying but don't let it make you feel bad. Remember they are only doing it because they know they are going to lose.

posieparker · 04/05/2010 12:40

Actually I couldn't be friends with someone who voted the BNP, but otherwise I love a good political debate and loathe apathy.

expatinscotland · 04/05/2010 12:41

i had an ex-boyfriend who loved Kilroy-Silk and slagged off asylum seekers whenever he could and made no secret about his support of the BNP.

he's an ex.

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