Newborn won't be put down, won't lie on back and will only sleep on someone...any advice?

[highlove]

Just that really.

My beautiful new DD (dc1) screams if we try to put her down and especially if she's on her back. We've spent the last four nights since she got home taking it in turns to hold her while the other sleeps. We're persevering: get her properly off to sleep and then pop her in her bedside crib but it's getting nowhere - withing five minutes she'll be screaming bloody murder. I think she's too little to just let her cry but I'm at a loss as to what we might try.. It seems to be both being put down and being on her back she hates.

Amy advice on what we might do or try? We can manage for now but when DH goes back to work our current 'shift' system will be much harder. (And we're now bickering because we're both knackered.). Or is this just normal and we're idiotic new parents for thinking she would sleep in a crib?

Any advice or even just sympathy most gratefully received!

[5madthings]

drink the advice is not to use them due to suffocation and overheating risk. But yes you can buy baby beam bags! Tbh I think it's irresponsible of manufacturers. But with supervision they can perhaps be used safely. It's like anything, read the advice and make a decision you feel comfortable with.

[BertieBotts]

I don't think 5madthings was "slamming", I think it's good to have safety issues pointed out, not all companies are aware, not all products on the market adhere to SIDS guidelines as there is no law that says they have to. Of course it's up to individual parents to assess any risk and we all take risks with our DC every day - putting them in a car for example.

We all have to do what we need to get through! :)

[yellowsnownoteatwillyou]

I may have over reacted to the tone of the post. It was the " a quick google search" will tell you what you have done for 7 months is wrong. That obviously caught me at a bad moment.
I used a bean bag for many reasons and it has worked well for my ds, as it has been said you do what works for you and your baby, you use judgement and common sense and try things till you find something that works.

[ThisIsYourSong]

If she is windy and you suspect reflux, please have a tongue tie ruled out, even if she has already been checked. This is a great article about it

milkmatters.org.uk/2011/04/15/hidden-cause-of-feeding-problems-however-you-feed-your-baby/

[highlove]

Thank you all so much for this - loads of useful stuff which I will try. Will definitely ask for a secomd opinion tongue tie - am going to a BF group on Monday so will try then. She's definitely very windy top and bottom.

Anyway, I feel a lot better just having got my head round the idea that this is how it will be for a bit. Instead of sitting up in bed bored tonight in catching up on crap telly and have got a better plan with DH on how we'll sort ourselves out.

So big thanks from me - feeling much better about things. Even though it is 3.45!

[2snugglets]

Sounds like your doing great. Embrace the co sleeping, it's so natural. I did it with dd2 until she was 6 weeks then she started wriggling more so put her in crib and she just started sleeping through from 10 weeks. She is such a happy settled little baby now and I'm sure it's because I went with the co sleeping until she was ready to be put by herself.

[Shroomboom]

Have you tried putting her on her side? We tuck dd in tightly using a sheet (she's almost 8 weeks) so she's snug on her side and can't move. She doesn't like being on her back either.
I would also suggest putting something under the mattress so the head end is higher in case it is reflux.
Good luck!

[BatterseaGirl]

I think my DS1 was either on my chest, in a sling or on my shoulder for about the first six weeks and I wouldn't change it for the world. I could only do that with him - the next three didn't have that luxury! I read quite a few books and watched quite a lot of telly. Oh those were the days....