what time does your 12 year old go to bed on a school night

[Ladyemem]

we are in disagreement

[Tehya200]

Personally i think it is cruel for a parent to make a child over the age of 10 go to bed earlier then 9 o-clock because they are not a young child anymore and children 11 and up are even sometimes awake until 2 am. I know i was when i was that age. You might think you know they spent all day in there room anyway what is the difference but there is a big difference your child wont feel babied anymore, they might feel a bit more grown up, and that feeling of being a bit more grown up with a later bed time might make them do more grown up decisions or stop making childish decisions. But this is my opinion and at the end of the day it's down to you as a parent to make that decision but i hope this has helped you out as to what to set your child's bed time at personally i would say 10:00-10:30.

[Sinead2173]

My wee girl the same every other girl in her year allowed to stay up very late and on their phones. I'm such a bad mammy lol. She goes up stairs at 9 lights out by 10 my other wee girl is 9 shes up stairs by 8 lights out by 8.30/45. They need sleep.

[hiiiizigirl]

bedtime usually is around 9-10 on weekdays. at 8:30 brushing teeth and getting ready for school the next day happens for about half an hour. from 9-10 they read and. settle down in bed. 10:30 is MAX and lights out!! this is our school sleep schedule

for weekends, kids watch tv from 6-8 and then settle down by 9. from 9-10:30 they read, and from. 10:30-11:00 is lights out.

on holidays, rules are the same except reading is from 10-10:30 and lights out is supposed to be at 11:00 but may end up (somehow) becoming 11:30 or 12!

[kensingtdelight]

Mine goes at 9.00 to wash her face and brush her teeth. Gets into bed at 9.15 lights out at 9.30 and she's usually asleep by 9.30.

[Ladyemem]

ok thanks everyone. 9.30 lights out it is

[imnotmymum]

lights off 10ish up at 6:30 for 12 and 13 year old.

[invicta]

School nights - my 12 year old goes up between 8.30-9pm and lights off usually half an hour later. Holidays are more relaxed. Unfortunately, he needs his sleep so lights off later then 9-9.30pm would be a disaster for him. However, his brother (two years later) has always needed alot less sleep, and is often awake far later than his older brother.

[GnomeDePlume]

DD2(12) and DS(13) both go up to bed at around 10pm.

At some point DD1 (17, princess of darkness) might go into their rooms and demand that lights/music are switched off.

I wonder if the difference is that we have a 3 storey house with DCs on the top floor and an extra sitting room on the first floor. Means that DH & I watch what we want and DCs watch what they want so there isnt pressure to push them up to bed to get grownup time.

None of them have any problem with getting up in the morning.

[iknowwho]

Just after 10.30 pm after News at 10 and the local news.

[RedBeret]

Mine goes when he wants. I find it easier that way. It is not a battle and he generally asleep by 10 to 10.30, but if I laid down the law he would be awake til midnight every night arguing.

[valiumredhead]

Ds is 11 and it's 8.30 and light out at 9pm. HAs to be out of the house by 8am to walk to school. Later at the weekends and holidays.

[Clumsymum]

DS (13 years and 3 days) goes up at 9 p.m. on school nights, officially lights out at 9:30 (but we forget to check).
He's always first up in the morning, by 6:30 a.m. (don't know how we two owls managed to breed a lark ??) . Gets up by 7:30 even at weekends/school hols, staying up late never adjusts his waking time, so I insist on 10:00 p.m. even on non school nights, otherwise he just gets grumpy - and anyway DH and I want some time to ourselves.

Another home here where no TV, computer or electronic gadgets allowed in bedroom.

[prettybird]

Should have mentioned: ds reads until 10 and has a radio he puts on "sleep" mode. He does an Xbox in his room but knows that's not for just before bed.

[muddyjumpers]

DS2 (15) Since he was at Sec. school he goes to sleep at 10pm. He's usually in his bedroom from 6pm doing his own thing!
Gets up at 6.45am (school days).

weekends he goes to sleep 11-12pm up before lunch (just!)

DD(10.7) Goes to bed 9pm and up 6.45am (school days)

At Weekends DD goes to bed 9pm and up 8am.

They are both grumpy heads if they don't get 8 plus hours sleep! (like DH )

[notso]

DD was 12 in May she goes up at 9, though she tries to drag it out, she reads or messes about on her Ipod until about 9.30 sometimes 10.
She gets up between 6 and 6.30, I never have to wake her.

She would go to bed later and did in the holidays but with two under two as well as her and DS1 DH and I need an hour alone time before we shuffle off to bed at 10.

She says EVERYONE else is allowed to stay up forever and watch whatever they want and can text all night and NO-ONE elses mum switches the modem off at 9.30.

[IAmSheWhoMustBeObeyed]

DD just turned 13 goes up at 9 and is usually asleep by 10 unless she has homework she hasn't done that is due in the next day in which case she will reappear unexpectedly downstairs at midnight looking for pritt stick.
HTH

[bunjies]

My 13 year old goes up at 9pm (to read if he wants - he's not allowed any screen based amusements then) and it's lights out at 10pm if he hasn't already. Up at 8am.

[lljkk]

Shoved into room by 9pm, hollered at if lights still on after 10pm. Except Scouts night when he doesn't get home until 9:30pm.

[prettybird]

Ds (12 next Monday) goes upstairs between 9 and 9.30 (usually closer to 9.30 ) and lights out at 10 (although we don't always check).

He was allowed up later on Wednesday (till 10) to watch NCIS - and also because we only get in from rugby training at about 9 and we still need to have some supper. He's wanting to see what Dallas is like!

He's up at 7 without any problems - but he's always been a good sleeper.

[sandyballs]

My girls are 12 in march, they started secondary school yest. They go up to bed at 8.30, lights out 9.00. Up at 6.30 and it's hard to wake them.

[MikeLitorisRings]

Almost 12yo ds is in his room for 9 and lights off at 10.

Up for school at 7 with no problems.

It depends on how much sleep is needed by the individual.

[MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea]

My 13 yr old yr 9 goes up at 9.30.

Normally goes to sleep quite quickly...nothing electrical allowed in his room.

[Fuzzymum1]

At 12 my older DCs went to bed at 9 with light out at 9.30, they were up around 7am.

[Trioofprinces]

My 11yo currently goes up at 8.45 then officially it's lights out at 9.15 but in reality it is usually 9.30-10.
Starting secondary school tomorrow and will get the shock of his life getting up at 6.30 when he's used to 8am!! He did want a later bed time but I don't think he'll cope with it for the first month or two of school and a long walk to/from each day.

[Ladyemem]

he asking for 9.30pm. thought that was a bit late but maybe not reading your messages.