shouting vs. smacking

[emkana]

I shout at my children far far far too often and really hate myself for it. The other thread has made me think if I can really feel that great about being a non-smacker, if I'm not potentially doing more harm by shouting so much.
I never say anything bad or derogatory, never ever, but just lose patience or shout orders or "Verdammt noch mal" (something like dammit I suppose).

[Passionflowerinapeartree]

I am in the sewer mouthed termagent club as well I say bloody far, far too often.

[moondog]

Ooh tref!
You're dead 'ard you!

[aloha]

Trefusis and, indeed
So, so familiar!

[moondog]

Nah forget it.
Sometimes I think I've been really horrid,but when dd then starts behaving really nicely,I know that it probably did her good.
I remember being sent to bed in disgrace at my own birthday party! Ican honestly say I deserved it.

[WickedWestCountryLass]

Does it have to be Shouting v Smacking? I don't smack and I try not to shout, so do the parents that smack not shout then?

[Hulababy]

I agree. i don't smakc and I also very rarely shout. I quickly found out when teaching that shouting doesn't have that much affect, so don't use it at home either.

[WickedWestCountryLass]

I don't know about you but I can count on one hand the number of times I have lost it, the majority of the time I am pretty calm when dealing with my kids but on the odd occasion and usually when there are mitigating circumstances I have turned into a fire breathing dragon. Of course I feel guilty about it but I also think it is a valuable lesson for our kids to learn that everyone, including Mum and Dad, have their limits. The world does not revolve around them, they can't always get there own way, sometimes they are pretty annoying and occasionally Mum goes nuts - but she is still Mum and she does revert back to her normal self when she's calmed down.

There is so much pressure on parents to be perfect, no one is perfect, we are trying the best that we can.