Have you had a miscarriage since September 2011? Please help with the next stage of our Better Miscarriage Care campaign. SURVEY NOW CLOSED

[AnnMumsnet]

As you may know, Mumsnet has a long-running Miscarriage Care Campaign centred around our five-point Code of Care, which outlines how MNers think miscarrying women should be looked after. In September 2011 we carried out a big survey on the topic, and asked hospitals and healthcare providers to implement the Code of Care - something lots of them said they were adhering to when we did a Freedom of Information exercise in 2012.

So now we want to know what, if anything, has changed since our last survey. Are hospitals living up to our Code of Care, and to their own stated policies?

For that reason, in this survey we're asking for responses from women who have miscarried since our last survey (in September 2011).

If you have a friend who would also be eligible please feel free to pass the link to the survey on to them.

Obviously this is a potentially sensitive subject and we don't want to upset any of you, but we know many of you do feel it is important to campaign to improve services (where improvements are needed), so please do take a couple of minutes to complete the survey if you can do so without causing yourself great upset.

Everyone who completes this survey will not only have our grateful thanks but also - as a small token of appreciation - be entered into a prize draw to win a £50 voucher for the store of your choice.

Here's the link: www.surveymonkey.com/s/JM2FSFC
Many thanks
MNHQ

[paperbaghag]

Can't fill this in as my mmc was in December the year before. Thing I remember most was the doctors being baffled I was so upset. They asked me if the baby had been planned - it wasn't. I'm not sure if they then thought I would be feeling ok about it?? It was a bit weird. I was devastated.

Apart from a phone call to tell me when my d&c was and then one the day after to check my bleeding I didn't have any other care or offers of care. I don't know if that was normal.

[beecrazy]

To read all the messages about the awful experiences women are still having to go through makes me both sad and angry.
I had seven miscarriages including one at 22 weeks many years ago and my treatment each time was horrendous (including being put on side room of labour ward on Christmas eve following the 22 week mc and saw no nursing staff all day, also once at 12 weeks put in a geriatric dementia ward as the only space available for 2 days)
To think that nothing has improved in all that time and the thing that stands out is the attitude problem of the people supposedly caring for you. Empathy bypass seems to be endemic in the 'caring profession'.
A gentle smile, a hug or just a touch of the hand would go a long way to help when you're in such despair.

[Bodicea]

I would like to add that the new rules where there have to be two scans a week apart no heart beat is detected on the first scan on even a reasonable well developed fetus are ridiculous. They are an insult to the health professionals that do the scans and put patients through a lot of heart ache waiting for the inevitable second scan. (cant remember the exact rules as on mat leave and not read the policy in a while - they were introducing it as I was going off). I say this as a sonographer and someone who has experienced two miscarriages.

[gotthearse]

Nurse:what are you doing here, this is an early pregnancy clinic for women who are pregnant. You're not pregnant, so why are you here?
Me: because I was told to come here. And you're the first person to tell me my baby is gone (heading for door in tears)
Nurse: would you like a leaflet?
Me: no.

[gotthearse]

That's was in 2008.

[backwardpossom]

Done

[RowanMumsnet]

Thank you so much to everyone who filled in the survey, shared it and commented here. We've got enough responses now so we will close the survey today - please watch this space for the results.

[RowanMumsnet]

Blimey gotthearse, that's truly shocking (sorry, posted before reading yours)

[Justonemoretime]

I've had 3 in that time frame, happy to help with research... Lots to say, good and bad...!

[Justonemoretime]

I must just say the the EPU at UCH, London is amazing. All services should visit and see how they do it there.