Bleeding question, sorry

[Zoo33]

I’m having a medically managed miscarriage (nearly 10 weeks but baby died at 8+3) and am getting slightly concerned about whether the blood loss is normal. The doctor said like a very heavy period which this definitely isn’t!! Is there such a thing as “normal” and if so, what is it?! Thankfully the cramps haven’t been as bad as I expected, but I’d like to know if I can expect to leave the bathroom any time soon... It’s been gushing on and off for about half an hour and otherwise it’s like someone left the tap running.

[Kej13]

We did that every other month and no luck so far. Ran out for this month so thought we'd just try without them as they haven't helped for the last few months but if no luck this month I'll buy more again 😂

[Zoo33]

Just pump him full of vitamins. That's what I'm doing. 😬

[Kej13]

Haha we've been trying since the end of July @Zoo33 he knows the score now 😂 Ttc brings out the crazy!

[Zoo33]

@Kej13 I'll keep my fingers crossed it is ovulation pain! Go go go. Tell your poor DH he can rest once your fertile week is over. Xx

[Kej13]

Thank you. Seems so unfair how much we must go through 😔 It's my fertile week so trying like crazy (poor DH!) but I'm not getting my hopes up! Been having cramping the last couple of days which I think is ovulation cramping which I haven't felt since mmc so hopefully my bodies starting to work again! Xxx

[Zoo33]

Thanks @Kej13, I really hope you do too. Xxx

[Kej13]

@Zoo33 I'm so happy to hear that, it's hard to explain how much better it makes you feel but it really does! I hope it all went okay and now you can ttc again and I hope you get everything you wanted 💕🌈 xxx

[Zoo33]

Thanks @cookiefiend, it's all done now so hopefully I can start to move on. Hopefully both our periods make a return soon.

@Kej13 You were right - I feel soooo much better now! It's made such a difference emotionally knowing it's over.

[cookiefiend]

Gosh @Zoo33, I'm sorry getting the surgery took so long- what a long time for everything to drag on for. I was so grateful when my hormones finally started to drop so I could hopefully start to move on.

I'm sorry for the others too- it is very unpleasant.

[Kej13]

I completely agree, I had a week and a half off and spoke to pretty much no one and wish I could have had longer, take as much time as you can! It's been 5 months for me, sometimes I'm okay and others it's like the day it happened. I really hope you're okay and you're not alone, there are so many of us here in the same position so understand! Xxx

[Zoo33]

@Kej13 I think people who haven't been through this just don't know what to say, so hopefully your MIL wasn't being intentionally awful. If she's anything like my grandmother, she thinks she's helping and doesn't mean to be mean, if that makes sense? Glad you've got the support of your DH and friends. Xx

[Zoo33]

Hi @Mayah I'm so so sorry for your loss. It's only been a couple of days, give yourself time. I took 2 weeks off after I found out my baby had died and to have medical management as there's no way I could even have tried to be normal or to face anyone. I hope you can do the same if you need to and give yourself time to grieve.

It's been almost a month for me and I find I'm not great at being alone with my thoughts - but initially I couldn't bear to be around anyone (although I couldn't very well tell my bf to piss off as he'd taken leave to support me).

It's so hard and it is strange how we find comfort and support with knowing we're not alone, but do whatever you need to and don't worry about feeling down. I hope you're okay. Xx

[Kej13]

I don't talk to my parents and since mmc fallen out with MIL (she said some really awful things about our baby) so just feels like going from bad to worse! But DH does his best and our friends are great! I know statistics are on our side but hard to see that sometimes. And @Mayah mine was like that too, I couldn't believe how much you could bleed! My thoughts at with you xxx

[Mayah]

I just had a miscarriage Monday, I was 12+6 weeks. I got really bad cramps and a gush of blood just came out of me. My bathroom honestly looked like a murder scene. The hospital concluded that my baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I didn't know as my dating scan wasn't till next thursday. I've mentally accepted it and I'm focusing on the positive side, but I can't seem to get a grip on my emotions. I'll get random moments where I just cry and feel down for a while. But it helps to see I'm not alone. My mum told me every one of her sisters and my cousins have miscarried their first pregnancy, weird how you find peace from other peoples struggles. I just hope to start trying again soon. My thought are with you all also

[Zoo33]

That's very true, but I think it's important to stay positive, if only for sanity reasons. Statistically the odds are on our side and there's no reason to think there's anything wrong with you. You'll get there, believe it. I hope you've got lots of support. Xx

[Kej13]

I know I constantly think that there's something wrong with me! And I don't know that hearing other people's stories make me feel better all the time, makes me wonder if I'll ever get there! You don't know how many people have miscarriages until it happens to you! Xxx

[Zoo33]

I think it's the uncertainty that's the worst. Not knowing how long it'll take to get pregnant again, not knowing if you'll be able to hold onto it... It is sad and lonely but I'm slowly hearing about more and more family members who've been through this and come out (successfully) on the other side. It gives me hope. But I think you're right - we will get there! Xx

[Kej13]

I was scared too but honestly i can't explain how much better I felt after! I had an emergency one, had the miscarriage and medication on the Thursday and by Sunday I couldn't even turn in bed I was in so much pain so DH took me to the women's ward who were amazing and had the d&c the next day but that did mean an over night stay for me unfortunately! Physically I'm fine now, we've been ttc since with no joy which has been the harder part of this for me but we'll get there! I hope you're okay, it's a sad and lonely time xxx

[Zoo33]

@Kej13 Thanks! It might sound strange but I can't wait. I'm scared, but can't wait as this has been dragging on for so long! Sorry to hear about your loss and that you had to go through an incomplete miscarriage. How are you coping now? Xx

[Kej13]

I'm so sorry for your loss :( I had an mmc at 12 weeks and also had medical management. I was told to expect to have a full pad to change every 15-20mins. I also had an incomplete one so had to have a d&c, honestly you'll feel so much better afterwards. Xx

[Zoo33]

Thanks @OuchLegoHurts, seems it's pretty common! Best of luck to you too.

[OuchLegoHurts]

Sorry, typed your name wrong, Zoo!

[OuchLegoHurts]

Best of luck Zoe, this happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Mine didn't complete naturally either but I took Cytotec tablets for three days and I passed the rest of the tissue naturally. All over now I think thankfully. Best of luck for future pregnancies

[Zoo33]

I know exactly what you mean, although I keep thinking I’m 13 weeks then having to remind myself that’s not true anymore.

I’m okay although the scan revealed an incomplete miscarriage, so I’m having surgical management tomorrow. It sucks. Can’t wait to get back to normal but it’s so hard with not knowing when your period will be.

Hopefully your period will come back soon.

[cookiefiend]

Hello, I was just meaning to message you yesterday. Fine thanks- seems like ages ago now and I have stopped forgetting I am not pregnant if you know what I mean.

Still no period.

How are you doing? Did you have your follow up scan? Hope your body is kicking back into normal. I'm worried mine may take a while as I am still breastfeeding and it took ages to come back (only had one period and DD2 just turned 2!).