I have changed my name for this as it is all still fairly new.
A little background info. I'm a youngish single mum of two dds, have been single since the day dd2 was born just over 6 years ago. Although I did have one rather strange bf for six or so months a couple of years ago, I have been alone ever since.
Roll on to the present.
So, a few weeks ago I went back home for a visit and was introduced to an old family friend at a drinks party. I have been away for some years and had not met him properly in any social sense before. He was highly recommended and I was given a short run-down of his history. He is a couple of years older than me, no children, but a wife from whom he is separated - but not divorced. We hit it off immediately, and got raucously drunk together by the end of the evening we were rolling around in bed. I had to return the next day, but since my return we have kept in regular contact on the phone, and the internet.
So my niggling worries are several, the first most 'basic' is the way we got together. I have never slept with a stranger before, and although it didn't feel 'dirty', I am quite unsettled by the fact that I did it. Not as much though, as having slept with a married man. I know they are separated, but they are not divorced, and worse - he still wears his ring, which makes me think that he must feel some sort of emotional commitment to this marriage. Furthermore, I have since discovered from family that he isn't separated because they were incompatible, but because circumstances prevent them from being together.
Now before I even get into the 'I can't remember how to date' (which I can't!), I feel I need to talk about these first niggles. I would usually discus this with my friends, but I don't feel comfortable with discussing it yet. I really need to know what to do from here. I like him, but obviously don't know him well enough to know if I like him enough to be worrying about this. Nor am I sure that there is anything to be worried about here, or if it is just nerves, so to speak.
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namechangeling · 22/04/2008 21:59
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