Basically, I had been talking to this guy for a few weeks and then had sex with him one time and carried on talking for a few more days then things just fizzled out and never seen him again (I still had him on all social media etc) I had then slept with someone else a week later.
fast forward 6 weeks I found out I was pregnant which was a HUGE shock!! The due dates from the scans kept changing so I never told either of the potential baby dads that I was pregnant. I did announce on my social media that I was 12+ weeks pregnant and her dad (now I know since she was born) had messaged me asking if the baby was his which I said I didn’t know but i don’t think so, as I was scared and had in my head that I was going to do the pregnancy alone which was fine as a baby is a blessing no matter what.
From then until now which my baby is now 18 months I haven’t heard or seen from him as he had deleted me off social media a few months later (he must of thought I knew who her dad was as I hadn’t been in touch)
My baby is now starting to talk and is saying “dadda” a lot as heard from the TV, her cousins etc I know that soon enough she is going to start asking me if she has a dad or where her dad is and I just don’t know how to answer it and I feel so so guilty as I wouldn’t have a answer as I’ve never even told him he has a child and my mind keeps telling me to reach out to her dad and tell him he has a 18 month old BUT HOW DO I DO IT? WHAT DO I SAY TO HIM?
Either way I’m scared if he does or dosnt want to be in her life, im scared of him saying he dosnt want anything to do with her or just blocking me straight away as what would I tell her when she’s older but then I’m scared if he does want to be in her life for her to meet him as he’s a complete stranger to her and I don’t know any of his family or what they are like?
my mind will not rest at all lately and I know it never will as it is getting harder and harder until I say something but I’m just so scared either way.
please please help, give me some advice or what to even say to him ?
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Fell pregnant to a one night stand and the father still dosnt know and my baby’s 18 months, do I tell him?? Please give me advice
Mumto1xx · 04/01/2024 00:34
Mumto1xx · 04/01/2024 00:49
Thank you so much for this nice message! It’s nice to be told from a complete stranger that they are proud! Don’t get me wrong it’s hard been on your own but your baby is your blessing and everything happens for a reason. You will do it and your baby will make you the happiest you will ever feel there is no feeling like motherhood they are your little best friend, the only person you need in the world. But then I know when she gets older she will want answers and I feel it’s better to be done sooner than later even tho it’s probably the scariest thing I will do! Good luck you will smash been a single mum ❤️❤️
Deathbyfluffy · 04/01/2024 01:37
How can you be sure he’s the Dad? In his shoes I wouldn’t be doing a single thing without a paternity test.
Amara123 · 04/01/2024 01:43
Either chap could be the dad, dating scans are really inaccurate for this purpose.
They need to do a paternity test first.
It's really important for your kid to make sure you have this right, I know someone in your exact same situation using scan dates and the father was not the one that the mother thought they were.
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