Divorced ex-husband 2 years ago and have tried hard to maintain boundaries. We used to get along but due to several disputes definitely do not now. For the record ex did everything he could to try to destroy me and since he failed has gone back to being as fake as anything in front of DC asking how I am etc and then still sending me abusive emails saying I am a bad mother for x, y and z. I've had enough!
We share parenting and with handovers in the past ex used to come inside my flat to drop off DC. I initially thought this was best for DC, showing mummy and daddy on good terms but no longer want ex in my house. We now meet in a local cafe for handovers and have some brief fake chat in front of the kids asking how each other is. Given all the hurtful emails he sends/countless texts I receive I can no longer keep up this bullshit pretence. I do not like the man.
I know these handovers will take place for sometime as DC are young so please tell me how you do it. In films I see a child say goodbye to one parent in a car, run into the house to be greeted by the other parent and the two parents never have to say a word to each other. Does anyone actually do it like this? In the past, I've said to my ex make the handover quick and he will insist he needs to ask me about random things or tell me something about DC. It's just another way to get at me. And to be honest even 5 minutes with my ex these days leaves me with a bad feeling, I'd rather not see him at all. Or do I suck up this fake and painful chit-chat for sake of DC?
Please tell me how you do handovers and tips for disengaging from ex.
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fluffygown · 06/08/2019 13:18
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