We have just returned from a completely exhausting trip with small DC (3.9 and 10 months, plus a teenager) and thinking there must be a better way to do it. It's the first time we've been home in 3 years and we've only had one younger child with us before (DS1 or DS2). DH has to do all the driving as I do not have a driving licence.
We drove through the night on the way there starting at 9pm, arriving approx 9:30am, but then couldn't get into our accommodation until 3pm. We don't have family we can stay with or family who will look after DC etc (and DC were too wired/clingy/don't know them, anyway) or even look after us by sorting beds/food etc, so by the time we even got to the accommodation both DH and I were struggling to string a sentence together, and by the time we'd sorted bedrooms and dinner it was 5-6pm and then we adults hadn't yet eaten, so we didn't get to bed until about 8-9pm - awake approx 36h by this point. In previous trips we have had DS2 age 4/13 months and DS1 age 10+ or DS1 on his own age 5-10, so we've been able to tag team rest a bit, but DS2 was so utterly hyped from the moment we started packing that we couldn't take our eyes off him and couldn't easily handle him and the baby so both needed to be awake. I don't know if this is just a 2-5yo thing or a two small children thing.
Next day DS2 woke up at 5am so we were still exhausted. For the rest of the trip we didn't really have a chance to relax or tag team and I didn't get a chance to look around shops the whole time we were there (hugely disappointing!!)
On the way home we got up at 2:30 to leave at 4am so had around 4-5 hours' sleep, albeit punctuated by children waking up, and got home at 9pm, and this journey was SO much better, for me at least, although it was harder with the children in the second half, as they were awake and bored/annoying each other instead of sleeping. The journey takes 5 hours longer on the way back partly due to time differences (2 hours - one hour gained on way there, one lost on way back) but mostly (3 hours) due to traffic, we got stuck in M25 jam from 6-8am and Brussels ring road from 3-5pm. The following day was a write off but I feel basically normal the day after whereas the journey there was so exhausting I felt like I was walking around in a bubble the whole time we were there.
Anyway. Is this just what it's like or are there better ways? Other friends who travel home seem to have time/energy/organisation to make trips to supermarkets and pick up requests for multiple people or fill their car with squash and Bisto etc whereas it felt like we were just doing random survival quick, chuck any kind of calorie we can get into the kids right now into the trolley. No chance for using brain to shop.
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BertieBotts · 18/06/2022 10:56
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Richard19841 ·
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