Which was harder 2-3 or 3-4?

[BarbieLovesKen]

We currently have 3 (dd1 is 6 next month, ds is 19 months and dd2 is just 14 weeks)

We've pretty much decided that (if we're lucky enough) we'll try for number 4 (but not until our youngest turns 2 for various reasons)

I'm aware our dd2 is still very small so maybe we don't have a true picture of things but so far are coping really really well with 3, take it all in our stride and are pretty much enjoying every minute.

I'm just wondering if I'm being very naive in thinking that if we're like this with 3, 4 will be fine for us or will it be the straw that broke the camels back so to speak? Is 4 a lot harder than 3?

Tia

[mum6mum]

yep 2-3 was hardest with 2 at least you have 2 hands, esp's when they were all under 5 ,but after a few months it gets easier and you wonder why you worried so much. any thing after 3 isnt as hard to adjust too .
congrates and good luck .

[Nikna]

I am liking all the "2-3 easy" comments as that is the leap I am worrying about. My biggest worry is how we are going to get around in the car - do not want to have to buy a bigger car straight-away. Only way we can all fit is airbag switched off in front passenger seat for DS1, then DS2, baby in the back with me wedged in the middle. I was talking to a Mum of 4 the other day, they had only just bought a larger vehicle and up until then had been going on family outings in convoy!

[hollyw]

3-4 has been hardest for me. Partly due to a different age gap. DC 1 and DC 2 were about 2 1/2 when the next baby came long. When DC 4 came DC3 was 3 1/2. So we had to deal with a new baby followed shortly after by starting school. DC 3 is also more 'feisty' than the first two so 'played up' more.

I agree about the amount of washing - that does get me down if I'm having a bad day .... and nits is a nightmare!!

I think a lot of it is down to luck!DC 4 is an absolute poppet (atm!) and just fits in around everyone else. I don't know what I'd have done if she was a more 'needy' baby

Getting out of the house takes forever too

Worth it though :-)

[FateLovesTheFearless]

0-1 was hardest. I now have four and its never been as hard as going from 0-1. I dont find it hard having four at all except for maybe getting enough one to one time with each of them. I am a lone parent so thats not easy. I probably found the increase in housework the hardest as I hate housework and having 4 = a lot of mess.

[ItWasThePenguins]

FateLovesTheFearless that's comforting. I had a tough time with first baby, right through first 9 months or so. Now DS is 20 months, just about sane enough to have another (2 days late atm, fingers crossed). I'm really hoping that it's going to be alot easier 1-2 than it was going 0-1.
I'd love a big family, but am really scared I can't take it! I'm, only 20, so a long time left yet.

[purplepansy]

1-2 hardest, 2-3 hard. 3-4 a walk in the park. 4-5? hmmm think DH might divorce me!!

[cazboldy]

I think 2 - 3 was the hardest - it was like everything doubled for some reason - washing, time needed to get ready etc....

after that the last 2 just got easier

am sure number 6 would be a doddle.....

just got to convince dh!