I am really really really sick of my friend

[shesaneatfreak]

Shes been making sly digs about my house for ages, and today she outright said she didn't want a drink because there were no clean cups in the cupboard. They were on the side pilled up waiting to be washed I was going to rinse it out, there were 2 with mould on them but obviously I would give her a non mouldy recent one which I would rinse. Her dds cardigain dropped on my floor and she made a big show of shaking crumbs off it - just got I dont hoover as much as her, there is no need to be nasty about it. not sure how to deal with her now, am very hurt and angry.

[fakingit]

For gods sake why is everyone freaking out about a couple of mouldy cups? Like other posters have said, it can happen occasionally (left in study etc)even in a clean house. Why would it be a wind up - I mean, FGS.

If I went to a friends house and was truly disgusted by the state of it I wouldn't make comments like that, I'd just find excuses not to go round if it bothered me that much, arrange to meet in a cafe etc. In fact, I do have a friend whose cat sprays everywhere and who had mould growing in the drip tray of their coffee machine...I mean it's not pleasant but it's not a moral failure or anything major, jeez it's just a bit of muck - I don't like it, so I don't go round.

I imagine in times gone by you all would have been the types standing out on the street gossiping, fags in mouths and hair tied up in scarfs, having scrubbed through your house and done the step by 8am, muttering "And she's not even sick you know..." about the poor woman on your street whose bedroom curtains were still drawn shut.

[PinkTulips]

and btw... plug ins and febreze smell worse than the filth, they really do.

they reek and they only make it more obvious that a place is filthy.

it's not much work to keep a house cleanish.... half an hour a day can't possibly be too much for you if you have time to MN and meet friends every day.

who cares what people think, i clean because i don't want my kids to get sick. they have great immune systems, eat mud in the garden, lick food off the floor, all the usual toddler stuff but i do not allow my house to get really filthy as stong immune systems or not, too many germs in one place will make them sick.

[PinkTulips]

hard to know without seeing your house.

i have a friend who's house is like something you'd see on 'how clean is your house' i shit you not.

rotton food on the floor, muck everywhere, empty cartons and bottles dropped where they stand, garden a harardous waste site, bathroom should be condemned.

i don't go there anymore as ds came down with a really bad fever after the last time and altough i can't prove it was the filthy house i do know her dd is really sick, she coughs til she pukes every half hour docs have tried loads of meds and can't fight it.... i felt like saying 'have you tried fucking cleaning your house?'

thing is she lives with her parents and 2 siblings, one a teen and one is 8. she was obviously raised like this and knows no better but it is really foul.

i'm fairly lax about cleaning, my bedroom looks like a teenagers and i don't hoover upstairs much. dishes wait til the end of the day when i feel like doing them but i was single and childless the last time i allowed mould to grow in my cups

[DeeRiguer]

op are you related to alexander fleming by any chance?

[NumberFour]

if it is so hard to be friends with her, shesaneatfreak, why continue the friendship?

i kind of agree with custardo, btw

[shesaneatfreak]

This was NOT a wind up. Today we met in a cafe, while the kids were playing she kept going on about the cleanliness of the cafe and wondering how they kept it so clean, I felt like it was another sly dig at me.

[Tortington]

well i am going to buck the trend - you riend sounds like a cow. it matters not the state of my friends houses, becuase they are my friends.

if i didn't like the state of someones house i wouldn't go
i wouldn't take my children there

the only thing i can think of is that she gets a superiority kick out of commenting

becuase otherwise than that - the comments are just rude - even if it is true - its still rude.

[MaryAnnSingleton]

oh fgs wash up ! bleach and febreeze aren't the answer- febreeze is a vile invention

[reesysmum]

I'm sorry, but it's not just your friend. I would say most people would not want to drink from a mouldy cup, let alone set foot in your house. Why don't you hire a cleaner? Sounds like you need one...

[Emily3030]

I'm still LOLing.

[thumbwitch]

I reckon it must be a troll/ wind-up - surely?
If not then OP needs to have a think about the health and safety aspects of her own home. Yuk.

[Quattrocento]

You slattern you. This is a wind up, isn't it?

Let's take your friend's objections -

1. Mouldy cups - yes she's right to object - it is revolting and gross (though I did like the comment about it only taking a week to grow mould - that's when I KNEW this was a wind-up.

1. the skid marks in toilet - that's unspeakably grotesque - she's right about that too

1. the brushing crumbs thing - yes she's right about that as well

1. ooh its so hard to find a good mop these days isnt it? Clearly your floor was dirty

1. She tried to reccomend a local laundrette who do curtains well. There's another hint for you, take her up on it please

You sound like a case for Kim and Aggie

[snowleopard]

We have mouldy mugs, because DP never brings them in from his study and they sit there for ages. So it might be a wind-up, but if it's not it could be a perfectly normal pigsty, not an extreme one. I mean.... we clean, but a friend could come round and there could be mouldy mugs and a skidmark in the bog. On a bad day. And (the shame!) crumbs too!



And I have some friends whose home I consider a shitpit. It's all relative.

[Emily3030]

I think it is hilarious that some of you think this is a wind up! I literally LOLed.

Don't worry OP, I too have found the odd mouldy forgotten mug laying around here and there. Life's a bitch. She'll get over it.

[SheikYerbouti]

I would not allow skidders in my shit house.

Nor would I leave cups in the kitchen to go mouldy

and my house is a pig sty 85% of the time.

You are wind up merchant, OP. A wind up merchant

[DillyTanty]

wind-up, but i have been in a house so dirty that i felt sick eating there. i've never been over the threshold since. and i am NOT a neat freak.

[meandmyjoe]

Ooo dear, I must admit that I have found the odd forgotten mouldy mug or 2 hidden on window sils but having no clean cups and mouldy ones in the kitchen waiting to be washed does sound a bit grim. I wouldn't let it spoil your friendship.

[Ceolas]

I'm with wendy.

[wannaBe]

aw bless. Mine is called jasper. (parrot) . I only got him in November last year so he's technically still a baby.

He does seem to prefer dh to me though

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

oh we had an african grey timner, rescued by my dad after he caught one his customers throwing a yellow pages at it

started out being a nasty little thing, though not surprising given that it had yellow pages thrown at it, but turned out to be quite affectionate towards women. it had a thing about men though and would screech like mad when they went near him. he died of old age last year. my mum was devasted.

[ravenAK]

Speaking as a fellow slattern, I'd recommend getting cheap IKEA curtains & bunging them in the wash every 6 months or so.

If you're happy with the grime, then absolutely fair play to you. But you're on here posting because your friend was boaking at being offered a none too clean cup - meet her in a cafe next time, it'll be pleasanter for both of you!

[WendyWeber]

wind-up.....

[wannaBe]

ooooh you'll have fun when you inherit that then. I considered getting one of those but they cost twice as much as my African Grey so it wasn't to be.

My mum is going to enjoy looking after him when I go on holiday on Sunday - it will be like a military operation getting the cage in the back of my dad's car .