I don't know about other people or I need to take a chill pill. But it really bugs me when posters, either they dont know they are doing it or its intentional, kind of brag in a subtle way that their kid manage to do everything themselves, never required parents advice, input etc.. They would frown upon it even if they did. It's almost like stealth boasting way of saying how brilliant and amazing they are and the kid. Which frankly the kid is, no denying that. But then they go one step further by having a little dig at other parents who did things differently to them, make them feel a bit shitty because by their own standards, think we have over helped, hindering dc's future to the point they could never cope with the outside world. As though they can't think for themselves and are fragile. The thing is, they can its just that they like to ask their nearest and dearest for advice or want a second opinion. What's so wrong with that?
You know I must have read DD's PS over 20 times! Because she kept changing certain words and make me proof read to the point I could memorise pretty much all of it, couldn't get the blooming thing out of my head! bless her she was just wanting to get things perfect, no one else she said she could trust or would understand . She wanted the uni offers so much trying to leave no stone unturned. Now she's at uni, we reflect back and have a good laugh about it all, shes moved on and gasp, shock, horror hasn't asked us for any help and can stand on her own two feet. Even if she did ask us for help or advice I'm not going think or make her feel she's failed in doing so. Amen.... End of my silly rant....