**Urgent** Any cancer experts/people with experience around to answer a query?

[PussinJimmyChoos]

As you have probably seen from other threads of mine, MIL has terminal cancer - started in the liver and has now spread to bile ducts and pancreas. She is nearly 80 and also non insulin dependent diabetic

The diagnosis was two weeks ago tomorrow and the doctors said 6 weeks max. DH's family did their nut and told DH to get over there asap (DH is foreign)

DH text tonight with a story about a woman that they had heard of who lived for 10years with this type of cancer. I'm so as I don't think this will be the case and really don't want DH to be building up for nothing with false hope, only have a bitter shock if something sudden and nasty happens...

Surely 10 years is not feasible with this kind of aggressive cancer? I asked if it was possible if the doctors had got it wrong, but DH, who is a Biomedical Scientist anyway has seen all the reports and says no.

Apparently the family are going mad with the uncertainty of it. Atm MIL is not eating except for fruit and protein shakes. She is walking around, not in pain (although one of her pain killers does have opium in it so it could be that rather than the disease not spreading iyswim)

Any help appreciated...am so worried about DH

[ThreadieKrueger]

Hope you don't mind me posting this here, but when you asked if it is normal to be so bad one day and 'the next day she is ok', my fingers leapt to the keyboard to write (the insane untruth) 'oh yes, my mum was worse than that and now she is absolutely fine'

The reason I was about to write that is that about once a week I dream that my mother is completely fine, and in the dream I am rather puzzled about how she can be fine, given that she was in the last stages of terminal cancer.; but I accept completely that she is alive. I had that dream last night, and clearly had a lingering unconscious belief in it.

She died four years ago.

[PussinJimmyWhoooos]

Wow...they do say though that you can have such vivid dreams sometimes that they do stay with you during the day..... So sorry you lost your mum