THIS IS SNOWKITTEN - MY DH PASSED AWAY YESTERDAY

[snowkitten]

Nothig more to say...........

[Earthstar]

What an utterly shocking turn of events. I am so sorry for your loss, snowkitten.

[Tanee58]

Hope you are ok Snow. It will be hard for DD, because she'll be feeling bad about the times she shouted at her father. Is there a counselling service at her school? Someone outside the family she could talk to? She'll have a lot of mixed feelings and it's a lot for a 12 year old to deal with. But she's got you - she's lucky there.

[Collision]

How are things snowkitten? Am thinking of you all.

[FloweryTwats]

Just adding my condolences snowkitten xx

[snowkitten]

thakn you all. I am getting there but it is very early days with so much to sort and cope with. dd is not acknowledging this at all. i told ds today and he was non-plussed as he is only 3.5. So terribly sad and confusing for us

[mumonthenet]

snow, I hope you're doing ok, and your children too.

thinking of you.....

[cestlavielife]

thinking of you hope you doing ok in the circumstances, imagine lots people around...lots to sort out....

for later on or if your older dd needs to call someone to talk

www.winstonswish.org.uk/Winston's Wish is the leading childhood bereavement charity and the largest provider of services to bereaved children, young people and their families in the UK.

[Tanee58]

Snow, I've only just seen this. I have been wondering how you were. I am so, so sorry, but please try not to blame yourself. Any of us would have been the same. Take care and I know DD will be fine, with you as her mum. Big hug.

[cestlavielife]

i am so sorry.

you could not have knowmn...you took him to bed you helped him... you thought - tomorrow/todya he goes to the clinic to get help...such irony yes....

of course you were cross....the other times he didnt die did he? how could you possibly have known?

sendng you strength to get through this and hope you continue to get supprot you need for you and your dc.

[annh]

Snowkitten, I am so sorry for your loss. I remember your previous thread but had lost track recently. Several people have asked whereabouts you are and I don't know if you don't want to say on here but you have mentioned your general location on the other thread so perhaps people who asked could check there. There are many people who would be happy to help you in this difficult time, please do take them up on the offer. I will say a prayer for your and your children.

[cananybodyhelp]

Oh god I am so sorry to read this. You poor thing. So much love to you x

[willsurvivethis]

How are you SK - thinking of you x

[McDreamy]

Oh Snowkitten I am so sorry xx

[JollyPirate]

So sorry to hear this snowkitten - I have read some of the other threads and know it has been a hard time for you and your DH. Sending my best wishes and positive thoughts to you at this difficult time. Look after yourself.

[morningpaper]

so sorry snowkitten - you are in all our thoughts xxx

[MathsMadMummy]

oh snowkitten I'm so sorry

[OrganicHairbrush]

Just want to add, I'm hugely sorry. Your family are all in my thoughts and prayers.

[shandyleer]

I'm sorry snowkitten, I know nothing of you or your circumstances other than what I've read on this thread, but I do send my condolences. And please, as others have said, don't feel guilty, you're only human and it sounds as if you behaved more than reasonably when you found him at the bottom of the stairs. Take care.

[Pitchounette]

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[racmac]

so so sorry for your loss

[kdk]

So sorry for you Snowkitten - please don't blame yourself, in no way is it your fault.

If it helps (and it probably won't), my sister was a heroin addict. She was living with me and I knew she had relapsed but could not face talking about it so went to bed feeling irate - at 3.30 in the morning I found her dead from an overdose. Do I blame myself? Not anymore. Do I regret her dying? Every single day ... but that doesn't make it my fault.

Wishing you all the love and support you need at this time - especially for your children.

[carocaro]

so sorry, so hard, how are you?, get people you know and love around you to be there for you all.

[nicm]

soory for your loss.

[Collision]

It was totally impossible to know what had happened to him.

It was not your fault at all. Things had been so difficult for you and your family and of course you were exhausted and angry at the state he was in.

Be kind to yourself and to your children and try not to blame yourself.