I don't know what to think anymore - i thought i was getting better i really did.
After a trivial row with DP on saturday, when he did say some hurtful things i had to take my mums dog to the vets where i used to work. I walked in to a new receptionist who i hadn't seen before, so where i normally would go straight downstairs for a chat i had to sit and wait with all the other clients. It felt really weird, and not very nice actually.
The thing is, the receptionist, she was lovely - pretty, bleach blonde hair (like mine used to be). Really bubbly and chatty - she said, oh the vets think i'm mad. The clients clearly really loved her too and she pitched her "chat" just at the right level for everyone. I sat there mortified because 4 years ago, that was me!! I was the girl who the vets said were mad, who clients used to bring flowers and chocolates for and ask for by name. I was the one who had the mad stories to tell and was garunteed to provide the entertainment for a night out. Everyone liked me!! It was like looking in a mirror - only the mirror is broke and that person is gone now - long long gone and i don't think i can find her again. I feel heartbroken by this and i know its stupid. Ive always been the cheeful one, always the one first up at kareoke (even though i really can't sing ). The one with the cheeky smile for the old boys with their dogs.
WTF has happened to me!!! Now im stuck on ADs and no sign of stopping them. I thought i was getting better, i FELT better but this has made me realise, im NOT better, not by a very very long way My DP said to me last night in another trivial row - that im not the LEM i used to be, im different now - its like he read my mind And he is right. The thing is, he fell in love with HER not me. The one he dreamed all his dreams with, shes gone and im not sure i can find her again. Now, a good day for me is one where i don't break down. A good day is when i enjoy my DD but you know what, i can't remember the last time i really laughed, you know proper belly laugh - fucking hell, i was ALWAYS laughing, always being naughty. I told DP to leave last night, he said he would, but then we made up, he said sorry for being a grump - and he was a grump and he was out of order, but i just spiralled into a pit of blackness - all i want to do is sleep, i don't want to have to face who i have become because i don't like her, not one tiny little bit. Maybe i should let my DP go, he deserves better than this - i even wonder if my DD would be better with her Daddy, she certainly favours him over me - but then who wouldn't - he is the one with the big beaming smile and endless patience - i am the one with the permanent scowl and very limited patience.
Counselling isn't working, ADs aren't working - do i just accept what i have become and forget about being happy, stop trying to be something im not. Be quiet, don't rock the boat - TRY and be a good mum, at least with the practical side of things. Or should i really walk away now - ive put them through enough and its not fair.
The old me was a bit of a dumb blonde, complete scatter brain, lazy arse (but didn't care) happy go lucky person - how can i accept that she is gone?
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I feel like i have lost myself and its almost grief like.
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LucyEllensmummy · 02/03/2009 10:47
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