two children and loney

[Nanoon]

i'm posting this cuase i feel abit sad and don't want to tell DH .

We have two gorgeous boys (3.5 and 18wk) but i'm loney as i don't have that many friends.

I knew quite alot of people from when DS1 was born but since people started ging back to work or as time progressed on the group fragmented and i found i didn't really fit into any of the newly formed cliques (sp!)

I am now on mat leave and go to a local mums and babies group but all the other women bar one are first time mums and i'm not sure if i fit in because i have done it all before and i'm desperate not to come accross wrong or for them to be cautious of me. Also they are all off doing groups every day where as i don't really want to do this as i have both boys for two days a week plus i want one on one time with my yougest as i know just how time flies by.

I feel like i'm just stuck between two groups.

DS1 is at Preshool two full days a week and I would love to get him out and about with other kids with me and DS2 but i just don't know how to go about meeting others in a similar position. He is a lively little chap and i feel nervous of introducing him to others incase they think he is full on (he's not a monster but typical for his age think). I took them both out for the day last week and felt really sad that everyone esle we saw were in groups where as we were just by ourselves.

I'm sorry this is abit rambling but i have been putting these feelings to the back of my mind so a while and I just felt the need to get the words down.

[yomellamoHelly]

Is there any way you can suss out who your ds's friends are at pre-school and arrange for them to come round and play? I found pre-school was actually when I started feeling less alone becuase of this pool of play-mates. Chances are you'll follow some of these same people through the school system, so why not get started early - it'l make your ds's transition into nursery and reception smoother too. Lots of them had siblings too so chances are that your other child will have a playmate too.