DS 18 has just returned home for Easter, he is 18 and living in halls. The uni is a 6 hour drive away.
I was shocked when I saw him. He looks absolutely terrible and just seems a shell of himself.
He mentioned he was having problems sleeping which I took to read as partying too hard but it seems much more serious than that.
He says he can't sleep AT ALL at night and is therefore dozing off during the day or completely useless during the day. It is affecting his MH and says he has no motivation to do anything or help himself.
Since he's been home I can hear him prowling around in the middle of the night and because I'm out all day I can't monitor him what he's doing. I can't really engineer getting him into a better sleep routine and even I could it would only be temporary.
He says he also hates the course he is on and wants to change although I suspect that is because he is unable to keep up with the work because he is so tired.
He freely admits he is drinking too much, partly to self medicated and partly due to social anxiety. He's not eating properly either, the whole flat lives on rubbish and I suspect he spends the allowance we give him on going out. He's always been really slim but I can see he's lost a lot of weight.
He doesn't have a huge amount of friends at uni or at home and has always been reluctant to talk about how he is feeling.
I have insisted he sees our GP asap but he said he just wants medication rather than any kind of broader support. He seems to think anti depressants will fix it all.
I am terrified that he is spiralling and that if he doesn't get help the worst could happen. Being such a long way away doesn't help.
Is there anything else I can do to help him?
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Mental health
So worried about student son
signsofspring123 · 27/03/2024 13:27
TwigletsAndRadishes · 28/03/2024 18:54
I'd put money on this being quite a serious cannabis problem.
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