My family have been through a tough time since covid. My husband who had a very successful career and was in line for huge promotions etc out of nowhere had a mental breakdown.he of course had to stop work and at one point was completely non functioning. During this time I had to do absolutely everything for everyone. Go to work full time, look after the kids/pets, look after husband and deal with all the mental health professionals coming to our home all the time. I had to run the house and garden myself, cooking , cleaning, shopping.
The relentlessness of all this plus the worry and stress about my husband has affected my own mental health drastically. I have lost 50% of my hair, aged about 20 years , and I feel constantly on the edge of a meltdown myself. My son suffers from adhd which has its own difficulties and I believe that I also have it but I am undiagnosed.
This worry and stress has slipped over into my work and affected by ability . Not to mention that I don't want to be there as I have so much going on at home.
My manager has been very accommodating but I can tell this isn't going to be tolerated forever.
I feel so tired and exhausted all the time. I have no motivation or interest in anything. I don't, but if I could I would lie in bed all the time and hide from the world.
If I even dare mention my husband going back to work he goes ballistic to the point where I feel he has no intention of ever going back .(he's been off nearly 3 years) I would like to reduce my hours slightly at work at he has refused to let me because "we need the money" but we are 3k a month down from him not working but that's OK? I've tried to tell him I can feel my mental health slipping but he just minimises it constantly , and tells me to man up. I feel like I'm drowning. I want to go to the gp and get signed off work for abit but I think they would fire me if I did as been there under 2 years and not doing well . Feel so trapped
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Can feel myself slipping , so much responsibility on me , no way out
Frustrated371 · 24/03/2024 12:20
Frustrated371 · 24/03/2024 13:26
I would get absolutely hounded by friends and family if I were to leave him/abandon him in his condition.
Our kids are getting older now and I fully intend to separate when they arent as reliant on us. I had accepted that I just need to get through these next 3 or 4 years, but I don't feel like I can. It's going to do untold damage to me
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Frustrated371 · 24/03/2024 13:26
I would get absolutely hounded by friends and family if I were to leave him/abandon him in his condition.
Our kids are getting older now and I fully intend to separate when they arent as reliant on us. I had accepted that I just need to get through these next 3 or 4 years, but I don't feel like I can. It's going to do untold damage to me
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