I can't read the whole thread but I have read your posts.
A few things stand out to me (I've been in therapy for 10+ years with various different modalities).
- Therapists won't give you advice or their opinions on a situation. Depending on the modality, they will do different things to help you make sense of what you've gone to them for, but they are never going to give their opinion on whether you were right, wrong, etc. At best, you might get validation - 'I can see how hard that must have been for you', or permission - 'you are allowed to feel negatively about what they did', but good, safe, boundaried therapists should not be giving advice or opinions.
- They really don't need to know specifics. Whether something happened on day a or day b, or what came first etc is completely irrelevant. Firstly there is no way at all they can remember that level of detail about every client, so it just isn't worth your time sending it, and secondly, what matters in therapy is how you reacted to the situation and what mattered to you, or how you felt about it. For example, I experienced a very traumatic pregnancy and birth. In therapy, I have never told the whole story in a monologue of facts and times. I might start a session by saying (e.g. and this isn't my story, I'm just giving an example) 'I want to talk today about the time that the midwife told me my baby's heartrate was showing signs of distress', and then the therapist would talk about that. They don't need to know (and probably don't care and have no capacity to remember) that that happened on a Tuesday in the morning before the doctor came round but after my husband came in but hang on a minute did I tell you last week the doctors had already been there......... it really does not matter. At all. Your feelings and the way you related to the situation matter.
I do think it would benefit you to consider further what you can actually reasonably achieve out of therapy. If you're looking for advice, you need to go topic specific helplines and support groups with people with lived experience. If you're looking to process it with an impartial person, therapy is for you.
Having said all of that, this therapist handled this poorly. There are no set, absolute boundaries in therapy, so long as there ARE boundaries. Responding to emails out of session is totally normal for some therapists. Squeezing in a five minute chat in an awful day is something my therapist has always been happy to do, so long as she is working and has the availability. But some carve out their boundaries differently and it is important you understand that from the beginning with anyone you work with in the future.
It was not okay for your therapist to cut you off without an ending session, unless there is something you have missed out (threats, violence or therapist illness/unforeseen circumstance). It was not okay and I understand why you are feeling so hurt by it.
Best of luck today.