Hi, I really need advice from somebody in the know. I'm feeling a bit stuck with this situation.
My DS10 has been having weekly piano lessons for over two years now. He absolutely loves the lessons, he and his teacher have a lot of fun, improvising and learning to play. He seem to be doing well in the lessons (though he can be distracted and unfocused); his teacher says he has perfect hearing and has talent for improvisation. I also have a drum kit so they sometimes play together. DS can easily knock out a tune with just one finger - he even wrote a song himself. This is the good part.
The bad part is - he refuses to practice on his own, every practice is a struggle, and the progress is incredibly slow. I even had to learn his pieces myself to help him (I have a very limited knowledge of piano, more of this later); but practicing is still a nightmare, tears, bargaining, "I already done it" etc. In over two years, he only got Initial Grade , and even that was with the lowest score possible. I know the other kid who started at the same time is him and she is now getting ready for Grade 2. He on the other hand can barely play, doesn't hold his hands right, slouches, bangs the keys, and generally seems uninterested in being proactive- but says he loves the piano. When I suggest we stop the lessons, he gets very, very upset, starts crying and saying he loves music, loves piano, but hates practicing on his own. And that his teacher is saying he is good, so he must be good. But the reality is - after 2 years or lessons and a huge heap of money we have very little to show for it!!!
I would readily give up and pack this in - but the problem is, I was exactly the same at his age, and my parents stopped my piano when I was around 11. And I regretted it ever since, and blamed them for not forcing me to continue!! I have no idea what to do. I feel sad stopping it, but maybe I should for now and start again if he wants it? Or should I persevere? Or change the teacher, find a more strict one? I want him to be able to play and to make use of his creativity but this situation makes me feel like a failure compared to other mum whos' kid practices every morning before school and even plays in school band.
Any advice would be welcome...
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Do we continue with piano or not? In two minds and feeling upset
Bubblyb00b · 02/07/2023 10:53
user50316 · 02/07/2023 12:14
I never practiced piano and only did grades to grade 1. I just played for pleasure which when you're at school is a really nice hobby imho. Can you find another teacher who just teaches songs and doesn't do grades?
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