Dear Worried & Lost ... and other parents with little wannabe violinists/pianists...
research into 3 - 6 year old muscle coordination skills shows that often, small muscle coordination (that's fingers/hands) precedes gross muscle coordination (legs etc) . And of course, skill acquisition = esteem/confidence building. This is why music (violin or piano) can be good ... one of mine is still unable to ride a bicycle (almost 18 now) but could play Suzuki bk 5 pieces age 8 - 9. (no comment on quality - but intonation was superb)
also - I have noticed (and would be veryvery intererested to hear from others on this) that many younger children seem to have almost perfect pitch.. I've heard toddlers singing while sitting in shopping trolleys at grocery stores... their abilities to sing perfectly (hitting all intervals correctly) is astonishing... are many of us born with perfect pitch ... and then we lose it because it isn't cultivated?
other thoughts- yes - the Suzuki method has some pitfalls... however, if you really want to learn about it read 'To Learn With Love' by William Starr.. (It's maybe not in print any longer but you might be able to get it from the suzuki association in london). All very american so maybe annoying but interesting ideas.
lastly - I just wonder if we are maybe too focused in this country on abrsm grades and suzuki levels...
love your child, love the PROCESS of learning... and they will respect you, themselves and try their very best.
.... 'the woods would be very silent if the only birds that sang there were the ones that sang the very best'