Separated 2 years ago. Divorced nearly a year.
Silent treatment was an issue in the relationship and him ignoring me for 3 weeks was the catalyst for me filing. He then didn’t speak to me for 2 years, even in front of the kids.
Last week when I was collecting DD from his, he spoke to me, just a sentence about how her teddy was at a friend’s house.
Obviously it’s good if he’s going to be civil, but it’s completely thrown me. It’s got me wondering if I should have left…would things have improved if I stayed? Or is this just another aspect of his control because the silence isn’t effective now I’m in my own house.
I know it’s silly, but I’m really spiralling and could do with some support .
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He spoke to me after 2 years
WhatSusieDidNext · 14/04/2024 08:31
WhatSusieDidNext · 14/04/2024 10:20
Thanks for all the replies. I definitely needed some sense talking into me. I think it’s all tied up with the lack of closure. I have had some therapy but I think I probably need some more…
WhatSusieDidNext · 14/04/2024 10:20
Thanks for all the replies. I definitely needed some sense talking into me. I think it’s all tied up with the lack of closure. I have had some therapy but I think I probably need some more…
WhatSusieDidNext · 14/04/2024 10:20
Thanks for all the replies. I definitely needed some sense talking into me. I think it’s all tied up with the lack of closure. I have had some therapy but I think I probably need some more…
CaraMiaMonCher · 14/04/2024 08:34
Get a grip woman, it’s taken him two years to speak one sentence to you and you’re now spiralling about whether you should have divorced him. Are you serious?
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CaraMiaMonCher · 14/04/2024 08:34
Get a grip woman, it’s taken him two years to speak one sentence to you and you’re now spiralling about whether you should have divorced him. Are you serious?
TheLurpackYears · 14/04/2024 11:29
Don't go near a therapist, go straight to your local domestic abuse charity and talk to them. They will leave you in no doubt thay he is abusive and will beable to offer you support that will help you remain strong.
Ringing the Samaritans is also helpful ime, they listen and asked a few sensible questions, not like therapy when you will be churned up at a time you need to work on stability.
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