Hi all,
Is anyone else in the early weeks of separation and want to chat?
I'm so dreadfully lonely. My h announced a month ago that he's leaving me after 25 years & 3dc. He's in the process of finding somewhere to rent.
I'm struggling so much with the lack of communication. We've gone from sharing everything to ignoring each other. Sitting in separate rooms and avoiding any conversation.
Thanks for reading x
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So so lonely
Cryingemoji · 27/02/2024 09:50
Cryingemoji · 27/02/2024 11:45
Thank you for replying.
I'm sorry you find yourself in this position too.
I think I've been lonely for many years if I'm honest as we have grown apart but now I know it's actually over it's just so hard to accept.
I just feel completely blindsided by it all, I never thought he would actually leave.
It's excruciating keeping up with this joint silent treatment, if we do talk (very occasionally) it's usually him telling me how awful a wife I've been.
Cryingemoji · 27/02/2024 09:50
Hi all,
Is anyone else in the early weeks of separation and want to chat?
I'm so dreadfully lonely. My h announced a month ago that he's leaving me after 25 years & 3dc. He's in the process of finding somewhere to rent.
I'm struggling so much with the lack of communication. We've gone from sharing everything to ignoring each other. Sitting in separate rooms and avoiding any conversation.
Thanks for reading x
Cryingemoji · 05/03/2024 11:39
Don't know if anyone is around...
Feeling particularly down today, just by myself, while my dc is at school. I spent yesterday with family, but they're probably sick of the sight of me by now.
Ex and I are now just about on speaking terms, exchanging pleasantries when we pass by in the house. It's roughly three weeks till he leaves for his new place...
Mrsalwaysnearly · 05/03/2024 12:01
I find being alone the hardest part. When the kids are around you can keep yourself busy but when it's just you the silence and emptiness is overwhelming.
My H left 7 weeks ago tomorrow and I'm just hoping that what people say about giving it time is accurate cause currently I'm still in the thick of the all consuming thoughts and over analysing everything to the point of tormenting myself.
Can't imagine how difficult it is to have to cohabit whilst also trying to process all the different emotions we're going through.
I also feel like a huge burden on my family but they keep reassuring me that that's not the case at all so do what you need to do. If that means seeing them daily or venting in a message/chatting on the phone, whatever's needed, you'd do the same for them surely.
Cryingemoji · 05/03/2024 11:39
Don't know if anyone is around...
Feeling particularly down today, just by myself, while my dc is at school. I spent yesterday with family, but they're probably sick of the sight of me by now.
Ex and I are now just about on speaking terms, exchanging pleasantries when we pass by in the house. It's roughly three weeks till he leaves for his new place...
SoRainbowRhythms · 12/03/2024 17:00
How are you doing @Cryingemoji ? X
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LoisLanyard · 16/03/2024 21:10
Hi everyone, can I join in. I feel embarrassed and slightly sick typing this out as it somehow makes it more real. After a few crappy years but where I thought we had reconnected and things were going well my STBXH went back to his old horrible behaviour and now we are getting a divorce. It’s the right thing to do but I feel so low. I worry that I’m now going to die alone, that I’m just an old hag and my kids (both teens) will just run off with him and they will all have a happy life together and I’ll have nothing in my life. I don’t know what I’m asking or saying really. Maybe a question is how do you stay positive? I’m the kids main carer (he is the fun dad, which was fine) but I’m worried they will just want the fun and decide to be with him all the time? I also work so I try to juggle everything but maybe I’m just rubbish at it all. Argh. I feel like he has managed to position himself as the fun guy and I’m just the drudge. I’m such a fool.
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