Has anyone who is not married had experience of being taken to court to try and force a sale to your house? We have a jointly owned house. He wants to sell now and split the proceeds but we have a low interest fixed rate mortgage that ends in July 25 so I want to wait till then as we'll have more equity and be penalised 18k for leaving our mortgage early. He earns more than me so selling now works for him. We've had mediation and every thing I offer as an alternative to living arrangements - mainly different nesting options he just objects to so making it pointless.
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moonstone6 · 08/02/2024 12:06
Sorry should have said - we are both living in the house currently. He refuses to move out and so do I! We have 2 children, 10 and 6. Yes living together in the house isn't great (but mainly because he is being a massive bastard to me) but what I can afford to rent/buy is negligible right now.
I was sort of interested in if anyone has been to court if they are not married as my solicitor says that you are treated differently (go to a civil court rather than family) and they are more likely to rule in his favour. Seems absurd that if we were married we would be treated differently.
moonstone6 · 08/02/2024 12:56
Blimey, didn't expect such vitriol and so much support of a man!
Isn't there an argument for the stability of the children.. that he should just move out (that would actually be what I want). If we were married a court would say that he should move out, and yet because we're not, they won't.
How is a joint mortgage not a financial legal contract?
also he wants to split the childcare 50/50 so 1 week on and 1 week off. so it's okay for him to live in a nice big house with a garden and ok for me to live in a really shit house for the foreseeable future. they're going to really like coming to stay at my house!
i'm not arguing the split of equity, he's too much of a bastard to give me any more. he's too much of a bastard to move out because he doesn't want me living in the house. he can afford to rent somewhere.
BeckiWithAnI · 08/02/2024 12:58
So if he moves out you’re going to pay the full mortgage on your own until the house is sold or you buy him out?
moonstone6 · 08/02/2024 12:56
Blimey, didn't expect such vitriol and so much support of a man!
Isn't there an argument for the stability of the children.. that he should just move out (that would actually be what I want). If we were married a court would say that he should move out, and yet because we're not, they won't.
How is a joint mortgage not a financial legal contract?
also he wants to split the childcare 50/50 so 1 week on and 1 week off. so it's okay for him to live in a nice big house with a garden and ok for me to live in a really shit house for the foreseeable future. they're going to really like coming to stay at my house!
i'm not arguing the split of equity, he's too much of a bastard to give me any more. he's too much of a bastard to move out because he doesn't want me living in the house. he can afford to rent somewhere.
moonstone6 · 08/02/2024 13:02
I have actually offered to pay the mortgage till 2025, i can't afford it but that's how much i want him to move out.
BeckiWithAnI · 08/02/2024 12:58
So if he moves out you’re going to pay the full mortgage on your own until the house is sold or you buy him out?
moonstone6 · 08/02/2024 12:56
Blimey, didn't expect such vitriol and so much support of a man!
Isn't there an argument for the stability of the children.. that he should just move out (that would actually be what I want). If we were married a court would say that he should move out, and yet because we're not, they won't.
How is a joint mortgage not a financial legal contract?
also he wants to split the childcare 50/50 so 1 week on and 1 week off. so it's okay for him to live in a nice big house with a garden and ok for me to live in a really shit house for the foreseeable future. they're going to really like coming to stay at my house!
i'm not arguing the split of equity, he's too much of a bastard to give me any more. he's too much of a bastard to move out because he doesn't want me living in the house. he can afford to rent somewhere.
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moonstone6 · 08/02/2024 12:56
Blimey, didn't expect such vitriol and so much support of a man!
Isn't there an argument for the stability of the children.. that he should just move out (that would actually be what I want). If we were married a court would say that he should move out, and yet because we're not, they won't.
How is a joint mortgage not a financial legal contract?
also he wants to split the childcare 50/50 so 1 week on and 1 week off. so it's okay for him to live in a nice big house with a garden and ok for me to live in a really shit house for the foreseeable future. they're going to really like coming to stay at my house!
i'm not arguing the split of equity, he's too much of a bastard to give me any more. he's too much of a bastard to move out because he doesn't want me living in the house. he can afford to rent somewhere.
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