My mother is 78. Has been having memory issues for more than 5 years. Resisted a dementia diagnosis 2 years ago but we finally got memory clinic to push the issue and diagnose with mixed dementia.....vascular and alzheimers at the end of november 2017.
Mum is a widow. She is difficult and nasty. She has zero insight and judgement. She confabulates and lies extensively. She refuses to make any changes to her lifestyle such as writing things down. She cannot remember from one second to the next. She doesn't take her meds. She has withdrawn completely from family life. We organise everything for her. She cannot use the telephone or make arrangements and stick to them. She is a toddler ifykwim.
She cannot deal with any paperwork. We have registered her POA. Her car was un taxed and uninsured. She ordered a new kitchen and paid a 5k deposit and then forgot for 12 months.
3 moths ago for the umpteenth time she lost her car. We got her home via taxi late one friday night . The next morning she had no idea she did not have her car. We scoured the local city and eventually found it. took it home to our house. It was 4 days before she asked us where it was. no recollection of the event. we declined to return it to her deeming
her not safe to drive.
We have had 3 months of nasty aggressive backlash despite driving her everywhere she wanted to go . Today she had an independent driving assessment via the DVLA. when asked by the OT she could not say where she was; why she was there and what for ;what diagnosis she had ; what drugs she took and what illnesses she had.
She was taken out to drive round the local housing estate at less than 30 miles per hour and at the end of it deemed to be safe to drive and given her licence. The assessor said he would not explain the decision to her because there would be no point as she wouldn't remember the discussion anyway and just because she can't find her way and she loses her car all the time that didn't mean she wasn't safe to drive.
Anyone else join me in a chorus of WTF WTF WTF ??
Shall i give her the assessors number for the next time i need to rescue her and her car because she has no idea where she is or how she got there ?
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Dementia and Driving. Cannot believe this......any support
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skiingnomore · 23/01/2018 20:53
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