Just watching the video of the black child being not given a medal by Irish gymnastics.
I was wondering if there is anyone else on here on craicnet, who is not Irish, living in Ireland. What your experiences are.
I think that Ireland can be a very hard place to live if you are not fully white and fully irish.
I'm half Irish. I was bullied all the way through school for not having an Irish surname. Then when I grew up and lived in the same small town, all of the same girls from my school were living in that town. And as adults they refused to talk to me.
I see the women who are fully Irish, being popular , having great lives.
To be totally acceptable and popular in ireland, you have to have a rich family, brothers/father who play gaa etc.
All the rich girls in my school hung around together. And again as adults all the rich Irish women hung around together in small town Ireland.
If you were foreign, from a single parent family, seen as poor, you were not accepted at all.
And it's who you know
I think this makes Ireland a very difficult place to live
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Ireland is a hard place to live
Mooshamoo · 26/09/2023 10:34
Neverinamonthofsundays · 26/09/2023 10:54
My kids go to ET schools where there are other kids from all walks off life and I they have mostly 'foreign' friends so no not my experience at all.
Anoushkaka · 26/09/2023 11:03
That is a massive generalisation of Ireland. I don't have an Irish first name or surname , no brothers that played gaa and wasn't rich.
My son has children from eleven different countries in his class and they are all treated with respect and equality.
My DDs best friend is from Nigeria. Her Dad has three wives and lots of children between them. They are definately not rich or the other things you mentioned but this lovely girl is the most popular girl In the class because she's funny and kind. Her race, religion, family life has never been an issue.
Berlinlover · 26/09/2023 11:09
@Mooshamoo Your only contributions to Mumsnet are about how miserable you are living in Ireland, if I hated living somewhere as much as you hate living in Ireland, I would move elsewhere.
Anoushkaka · 26/09/2023 11:11
What do you define as Irish? My parents are not Irish but I was born in Ireland. I'm 42 now so things have moved on from when I was born. When I went to school there was only myself and one other girl who had foreign parents. Never had an issue in school or growing up being "foreign "in Dublin.
BooAutumniscoming · 26/09/2023 11:16
It was difficult being English in an Irish primary school.
Other than that I disagree with most of what you have said.
Anoushkaka · 26/09/2023 11:18
I have relatives in country towns, same situation as me and they are fully integrated members of their community. They work there, go to school, members of sports clubs etc.
SnowflakeCity · 26/09/2023 11:16
I'm 'foreign', as in not Irish. I suppose that makes my kids half irish. None of us have had any problems at all. Lots of my dds friends are from different places or have parents from different place. Off the top of my head 2 of her friends have English mums, one has a german mum, one friend is American, another friend has polish parents. Half of the kids in her class are from lone-parent families. It is not unique at all to be 'foreign' or lower income or from a lone parent family. I live in a small town in the West so not exactly a thriving metropolis.
Lots of people who have lived here since they were born(as in this town) seem to still be friends with those they went to school with and don't really want to expand their friendship group but I have never been ignored or had anyone be rude to me. I find most people to be pleasant enough.
I understand that you have big problems socially and that that has hugely influenced how you feel about Ireland. If you are as genuinely unhappy as you seem to be from your multiple posts about it I would move towns, start again somewhere else, and get some counseling to try and leave your issues at the door. Most places have lots of things you can get involved in to try and make friends that aren't GAA related. A chess group has just started in my town, a womens shed, tidy towns, gym classes, running groups, writing groups, even some weird walking with poles thing. Reddit also frequently has posts with people wanting to meet up and make friends. Good luck, I hope you can turn things around for yourself.
Anoisagusaris · 26/09/2023 11:01
Apparently there was a genuine explanation for that incident - that girl was a winner in competition, the medals were for participants and the person handing out the medals thought that they were just for people who hadn’t won.
I’m not saying that impacts on whether Ireland is a hard place to live as you describe. However what you describe is not what I see in the small town I live in.
Anoisagusaris · 26/09/2023 11:01
Apparently there was a genuine explanation for that incident - that girl was a winner in competition, the medals were for participants and the person handing out the medals thought that they were just for people who hadn’t won.
I’m not saying that impacts on whether Ireland is a hard place to live as you describe. However what you describe is not what I see in the small town I live in.
Myfabby · 26/09/2023 11:27
Please kindly share where this genuiune explanation is from? It isn't on gymnastics ireland website, their apology or any of the articles I've read.
Thanks
Anoisagusaris · 26/09/2023 11:01
Apparently there was a genuine explanation for that incident - that girl was a winner in competition, the medals were for participants and the person handing out the medals thought that they were just for people who hadn’t won.
I’m not saying that impacts on whether Ireland is a hard place to live as you describe. However what you describe is not what I see in the small town I live in.
Mooshamoo · 26/09/2023 11:20
Yeah but you do realise that you can't speak for every foreign person in Ireland right. ? I've just spoken to a couple of foreign people in Ireland lasr week, who told me that they have received awful abuse
Anoushkaka · 26/09/2023 11:18
I have relatives in country towns, same situation as me and they are fully integrated members of their community. They work there, go to school, members of sports clubs etc.
SallyWD · 26/09/2023 11:28
I thought there must be an explanation. Even if someone was a real racist I can't imagine them blatantly ignoring a black child on camera in public (just because they wouldn't want to be caught doing it).
Anoisagusaris · 26/09/2023 11:01
Apparently there was a genuine explanation for that incident - that girl was a winner in competition, the medals were for participants and the person handing out the medals thought that they were just for people who hadn’t won.
I’m not saying that impacts on whether Ireland is a hard place to live as you describe. However what you describe is not what I see in the small town I live in.
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