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Conception

One Born Every Minute

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AmandaCooper · 10/01/2011 20:54

Starting on Channel 4 at 9pm. Who's watching with me?

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Littlepurpleprincess · 13/01/2011 13:41

"teenagers witlessly screwing without condoms"

That is unpleasent and bitchy but that attitude towards young parents seems perfeclty acceptable in our society. Thats what I was standing up against.

I did not mean to belittle what you are going through. You took this thread and made it about parents who are struggling to concieve. I just wanted to stand up for young parents.

Deliberatly wounded? I was trying to make the point that young parents can be great parents.

StartingAfresh · 13/01/2011 13:43

I rather thing that social skills group that they attended was a bit over the top though.......

Wonder what the success criteria was?

I thought they were a gorgeous couple!

Littlepurpleprincess · 13/01/2011 13:43

I'm watching and am already hurling abuse at those idiotic children having a baby. Contraception? Hmm? Hmm?

That would be the post I'm refering to Ariesgirl. Hurling abuse? Nice.

Ariesgirl · 13/01/2011 13:48

OK, I own up. I shouted at the TV "Why didn't you use bloody contraception, fools?" There isn't a lack of information about how you get pregnant out there.

So. I made a judgement that 18 year olds would have been better to wait and finish their education before having a baby. You made a judgement about me that I was a cow for thinking such things. I also made some pretty nice comments further down the thread, but you chose to ignore these.

BlooferLady · 13/01/2011 13:51

Were they teenagers? Decidedly.

Were they witless (that means 'unthinking', dear)? Apparently so.

Were they screwing? Undoubtedly.

Did they use condoms? Evidently not.

I stand by my comments. And only a thoroughgoing nincompoop could seriously suggest that Britain's astonishing rate of early teenage pregnancies is something that is going to contribute positively to society.

As it appears to be necessary in this case, allow me to state again: SOMEONE MAKING A GENERAL COMMENT DOES NOT APPLY TO EVERYONE SPECIFICALLY.

I am not implying that you're not a splendid mother. I am just saying that IN THE GENERAL RUN OF THINGS getting up the duff before you've completed your GCSE's/NVQ in carpet-laying/whatever is far from ideal.

Littlepurpleprincess · 13/01/2011 13:52

I've made some postive comments myself Ariesgirl but hey, they weren't picked up on either.

Damn me for suggesting we be nice, instead of horrible about about someone who's just had a baby.

PerfectDromedary · 13/01/2011 13:56

I don't think anyone's saying that young parents can't be great parents.

But being in full-time education with a family to support is going to be tricky, however considered the pregnancy is. And I think that the VT made it very clear that it wasn't a considered, much-wanted pregnancy.

Let's face it, too - a baby ties you to another human being forever, and if you don't have the emotional maturity to negotiate those ties, then it's not going to be easy for you or the child. And while Janet and Ralph were both sweet, the last thing I would describe them as is emotionally mature.

Ariesgirl · 13/01/2011 13:57

I am looking again for the horrible comments, aside from the one you thought was horrible you have already quoted, at the start of the thread before we started arguing. I can perhaps see that someone may see the reference to Ralph having Asperger's was a horrible insulting comment, when it's merely an observation. It was generally assumed by those who watched the programme that Ralph had Asperger's. I also wondered how he would cope with parenthood; again, this may assumed as being horrible by someone who was feeling very sensitive, when in fact it was just a question that I would ask of any young lad about to embark on fatherhood, a very tough and demanding. Hopefully he will cope very well.

Dreya · 14/01/2011 02:01

Thank you Levi I watched bits of it again and am also telling myself that they chose her particular birth to make good television. She has been the main topic of conversation on Facebook too!

I have opted to go to the midwife-led birthing centre and luckily it's only a couple of minutes walk away from the labour ward should an epidural be necessary. The idea of an epidural is becoming more and more appealing the closer I get to 1st of Feb! Good luck to you too.

sabs22 · 17/01/2011 22:13

I think its shocking that people in here are being so nasty about Ralph and Janet. They are 18, adults!! Ok maybe the baby wasn't planned, but accidents happy and I don't think it will make them any worse parents. They were clearly in love with each other and their baby. And why should he be judged for having Aspergers? Will that make him a bad parent? No, of course it won't.

Ok, its difficult that some people are trying for a baby and can't have one, but its nobodys fault, and ever so slightly sad that people think its fine to take it out on a young couple just because their baby wasn't planned.

They seemed a lot more mature than some people in here sound!

Ariesgirl · 17/01/2011 22:39

Yawn.

Please read properly. Where please is Ralph being "judged for having Asperger's"? Where is it said they will be bad parents? Where did anyone display immaturity?

By the way, this thread is a week old. Perhaps you would like to go over to Telly Addicts? I am not usually after picking a fight in Conception; it's usually a place where people who post are cut a little slack due to the emotional rollercoaster ride which is TTC. This has all been discussed already and everyone else had the sense to leave it after it was realised that feelings were running a little high, understandably.

pigletmania · 17/01/2011 22:44

On One Born every Minuite the lady of the first couple was really pretty, wish I looked like that when I had dd. Looked like i had been dragged through a bush. I would hate my bum and fanjo being on national tv though.

kat2504 · 17/01/2011 22:48

And then I see they have Nine Months on another channel afterwards. Why do I watch? Have I not done enough crying yet?????
Madness!

PrincessBoo · 17/01/2011 22:54

Watch Glee instead Kat my luff and eat some eclairs.

Sabs Move along now, nothing to see here.

Ariesgirl · 17/01/2011 22:56

Kat :(

It's so hard isn't it? Come over for a pint of Bitter.

kat2504 · 17/01/2011 23:07

Thanks my lufflies! Beer and eclairs is a good idea. It sucks bigtime. The end of Nine Months is sooo sweet and lovely.
This need for a baby is so deep and unexplainable. Is biology of course. A need deeper than words and sensible explanations. Anyone would think that watching people in labour in pain would put a sensible person off, but no!

PrincessBoo · 17/01/2011 23:14

No. And people who have a hard time/no sleep/PND/colic/sore nipples etc etc etc... nothing is like the pain of the unfulfilled primal urge.

And if you have never experienced that pain Sabs then maybe you might exercise some empathy and cut people some slack. :)

kat2504 · 17/01/2011 23:19

when I see my boyfriend holding and playing with his little nephew and niece my heart aches so badly. He has a son and is a great dad. Well, as everyone says, relax and our time will come........grrrr

On a lighter note, I have been put off having a water birth tonight. I never realised that it would involve being bathed in a pool of your own blood!

PrincessBoo · 17/01/2011 23:23

I'd love one. They can unplug it and then refill it so you can get all clean while snuggling your baby. And such a lovely gentle way to be born too :)

I'll never be allowed one though, if I do manage to ttc again.

Ariesgirl · 17/01/2011 23:25

Today I have been reading about fishing poos out with sieves. Add that to the mix and I'm a little more about them as well. But it's better than being strapped down with your feet in stirrups though!

sabs22 · 17/01/2011 23:36

Ariesgirl
'By the way, this thread is a week old.' - you also are commenting on it a week later!
'Perhaps you would like to go over to Telly Addicts?' - For commenting on a week old post? Don't really get that, but then you also are commenting on it so......

PrincessBoo - I am very, very aware, thanks.

PrincessBoo · 17/01/2011 23:40

Sabs Then, I apologize for making assumptions. There's a lot of :( feelings on this thread so perhaps best to leave alone is all I mean.

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Ariesgirl · 17/01/2011 23:41

I was responding to your post. Why would I not? Given that you found a thread which must have been on about page three and decided to resurrect an old discussion and have a go at posters who were obviously feeling vulnerable and sad.

Jesus Christ!

pigletmania · 17/01/2011 23:41

So, One Born Every Minute is currently on every Monday so can comment on current series. I am currently MC its so hard to watch but feel I must. I feel so down, everyone seems to be sucessfully pg at the moment except me.

sabs22 · 17/01/2011 23:48

That's ok PrincessBoo, thank you.

I didn't intend to have a go at anyone, just join a disussion but I don't think I really get 'forum etiquette' so I apologise if I unintentionally upset anyone. :( I will avoid in future, sorry.

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