Over 100 expected for Christmas Eve, and now in between fainting I am throwing up snot and not started preparing yet!

[Philoslothy]

I am almost four months pregnant and this time have really bad morning sickness to the extent that I am passing out. Just to up the ante I seem to have a really bad cold/ flu and so have started throwing up my own snot! The room is spinning and I constantly have the sweats.

I am feeling so unwell that I am losing track of the days and am not sure how many days we have until Christmas. I do know that we have about 100 guests for a Christmas Eve party, about 20 for Christmas Day and Boxing Day.

WE have no presents which is not the end of the world but I have not bought the food or drink never mind started preparing it.

I am sure everything will be fine, but home is hard enough at the moment so I can't share how stressed I am. So inbetween sneezing, shivering and vomiting I am smiling and telling everyone that it will be OK .

I am so annoyed with myself for getting stressed over Christmas, I never get stressed about Christmas.

[Philoslothy]

Thankyou. I am still in bed and being looked after. The children popped over this morning to see me which was nice.

[GodRestYeMerrySlatterns]

I wanted to wish you all the best for your big event. Ignore the miseries.

[Philoslothy]

Thankyou ladies. I am starting to feel better, my temperature is down and I have kept some soup down. I have also slept a lot during the day.

I was probably not making much sense last night as I was stressing not just about tomorrow but the whole Christmas period as we have guests until after new year. However everyone is chipping in and we now have food for Christmas Day and Boxing Day.

[louisejxxx]

There's lots of Christmas Grumps on here tonight!

Hope you feel better soon OP x

[Enlli]

Poor You. I would cancel if it were me. Your pregnant, morning sickness and have the flu (you should be in bed) so no one would/should expect you to carry on. Its just not possible with flu. Go to bed!!

[pressone]

Think the sprout went up Princess's arse and that is why she is so miserable.

[YonicSleighdriver]

Rest well, Phil, and hope you can make a little bit of the party.

[Philoslothy]

I think there is a difference between typing some random panic induced shite onto an iPhone in the dark whilst sat in bed and making detailed lists for a party.

You are right this year we are not as organised as we should be because my son has just gone out of hospital following a number of suicide attempts. We are just trying to keep the show on the road, mabe foolishly so .

But you carry in troll hunting under your name change, it is not as if I am a real person with feelings. I said the other day that I was too vulnerable to be on here and should dereg.

Thankyou to the posters who offered advice and made me realise that I was being in the nicest possible way foolish and needed to step back.

[pressone]

Philoslothy - I think you should be carried in to the party on a chaise longue and wafted from guest to guest to do a little hostessing then carried out again, all on the chaise longue, and hopefully by a gang of half dressed centurions - like Cleopatra or the Queen of Sheba.

[PausingFlatly]

Ahahaha! Nice one, Princess! You're the thread's token pretend troll-hunter!

Not a very good effort, but have a mince pie anyway.

[ImNoClownIWontBackDown]

This is a joke, yes?

[ThePrincessWhoSatOnTheSprout]

OK... you also said this...

I can't write but I can dictate lists into my iPhone and get one of the children to write it up and DH to check for things I have missed. The children are cleaning, DH is reading cookery books!

but you are managing to type just fine... Huge apologies once again if I am missing something.

[Philoslothy]

The planning was done some time ago but things need putting together, setting out etc. I had a team ready to help but I would normally be leading. I would would also be hosting, so greeting people, organising games for children, overseeing waiting staff etc. Someone else will do that for me. I do not want to miss the whole thing so will probably pop in but as a guest.

[YonicSleighdriver]

Well, you can't make/buy some things until the day before, surely?

[ThePrincessWhoSatOnTheSprout]

Indeed, but surely with this many guests (and huge apologies if I'm wrong) you'd have been organising this event MONTHS ago... before pregnant even...just seems a bit weird to me. That's all. Perhaps I'm too organised!

[YonicSleighdriver]

Princess, i think the plan changed when Phil realised she was too ill to host.

[ThePrincessWhoSatOnTheSprout]

Philoslothy... firstly you say "It is a party so I only need canapés, sweet things and drinks - not a formal meal. It is at home, the house is decorated ready. The gifts for the party are all done and the children are making sure they are all wrapped. I am worried about how I am going to host, I am back in bed shivering at the moment."

THEN you say.. "It is bring hosted in our home but not by me! I am currently propped up in bed next door. I may pop in but strictly as a guest."

Which is it?

[Philoslothy]

Thankyou storytown, she is indeed a wonderful woman.

[Philoslothy]

It is bring hosted in our home but not by me! I am currently propped up in bed next door. I may pop in but strictly as a guest.

[oranges]

please rest and take up the kind offer to host elsewhere. Do it now while there is time to make new arrangements. You are pregnant, and you really shouldnt be pushing yourself too hard. Good luck.

[CornChips]

YY Storytown. :)

[Storytown]

"DSS's mother has offered to host if I want to sleep"

This is possibly the most heart warming thing I've seen this Christmas. I have no idea about the details of your life OP but you're obviously doing something right.

I hope you feel better soon.

[Philoslothy]

I am being looked after by neighbours. DH, DSS and his mother have everything under control.

The vomiting is morning sickness, it was bad with the last 3 pregnancies.

Thankyou for asking.

[MsAspreyDiamonds]

Hi OP I hope you are feeling better but please don't push it. Is the vomitting part of the pregnancy or a combination of that & the winter vomitting bug? You don't want to pass the bug onto your guests.

Are you near a wholesalers like Costco where you can buy large catering packs of food & drinks?

I have just returned from Tescos & they have reduced a lot by 50%. Their 7 cheese selection box is now 4 so 10 of those would be sufficient for 100 people. The 900g box of crackers is 3 now so several boxes of crackers, cheese & fruit to make a giant cheese board. Perfect easy food for a large crowd.

M&S will have reduced their party
canape selection by now or will be
offering bundle deals.

[Philoslothy]

Cancelling is not really an option, it is something we do every year and it raises a lot for a local charity. However I personally do not have to do it.