Ok so Im only around 8 weeks pregnant so I know I am getting ahead of myself, but I cannot help worrying.
Last time, I was induced as I was told my baby had stopped growing and was going to be very small. This turned out to be wrong as he came out at a healthy 7lb. So basically I was induced two days before due date for no reason.
I was in hospital for two days waiting for a bed on the delivery suite. I did not need the propess (sp?) as I was already 2-3cm when I got there. As they had not started the induction process I was annoyed that I could not go home and wait for a bed. But anyway that's just annoying, nothing major.
After not sleeping for two days on the maternity ward with new babies, I was woken up at midnight (after just dropping off) and told there was a bed. My partner took a while to get there so I was beginning to panic and was told to get a grip from the midwife. Nice! My waters were broken and I was immediately put on the drip (I thought that they would leave me a couple hours to see if contractions started seeing as I was already in early labour by myself).
The drip immediately caused painful contractions with no breaks in between. I was repeatedly told that I could not have pain relief as I was not contracting. How ridiculous.. basically accusing me of lying. Eventually it was discovered that the machine was broken so was not picking anything up. I was then examined and found to be 7cm dilated, and I had been begging for pain relief for a couple of hours by this point. All the while I was being constantly sick.
I was finally allowed some gas and air and a bit of pethidine. The two midwives leant against the counter watching and chatting, with no encouragement. Baby was born quickly after that. My whole induction process only lasted 5 hours.
After the birth, as a FTM I was unsure if all the blood after birth was normal, so I got my partner to grab a midwife. She just took one look, then grabbed my arms and frogmarched me to the shower. No explanation, or reassurance that my blood loss was normal.
I was then promptly discharged 6 hours later, baby had not latched and I ended up bottle feeding which I did not want to do.
I realise I may have had it good compared to some women's horrific births and for that I am truly grateful, I really am. But I still found the experience traumatic. I just can't help the way I feel. I feel that the support from the midwives was not what I expected, and when I watch programmes like OBEM, I feel upset that I did not have the support around me like that.
Now terrified to do it again.
Any advice? I realise I may sound like a spoiled brat after what some women go through, so I apologise in advance.
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Nervous after last birth experience!
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OscarandTimmy · 17/03/2014 20:18
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