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11 year old daughter fought at school, police now involved

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Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:26

Hello,

My daughter was involved in a fight at school wherein she was defending herself from a boy that was hitting her with a stick. She has retaliated and one of her peers has videoed it but obviously doesn't show her being hit with the stick.

We had a meeting with the parents and all involved were very cooperative and my daughter was aware that her actions had consequences and she was suspended from school. She returned and all was well in the world until we received a phone call from the police!!!

They want her to attend an interview, the officer has assured us it won't take long maybe 10 mins but has also stated that we have the right to have a solicitor present.

Is this normal? She's scared out of her mind over this and obviously the need for a solicitor has worried us as parents

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Report

Mexicansky · 22/02/2024 20:28

Was the fight actually in school?
I would 100% take a solicitor with you.

soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:28

From experience nothing will happen, perhaps words of advice, but the offence will be recorded on her records on the PNC if it has been reported as an offence/assault. Do you know if thats whats happened, or is this a police visit from school liason officers?

soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:29

Ive just seen that they have said a solicitor is suggested so that does imply that its been reported as an offence.

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:29

We were contacted by the constable today. Sorry what is the PNC?

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soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:30

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:29

We were contacted by the constable today. Sorry what is the PNC?

Police National Computer.

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:30

It was on school grounds after school had finished

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Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:32

I have no words

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soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:32

They may have made their minds up its NFA, perhaps thats why they say its only 10 mins long

Is she required to attend or is it voluntary?

soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:32

Have you seen the footage?

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:33

Nfa?

They've stated its voluntary but I've read if you refuse then they make it mandatory

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Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:34

I have seen the footage

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LaPalmaLlama · 22/02/2024 20:36

Wait! Why did you allow the school to suspend your daughter for acting in self- defence?? Unless her reaction was totally disproportionate, like she was kicking him repeatedly in the head while he was on the ground, that seems crazy.

Dmsandfloatydress · 22/02/2024 20:36

Good God!! That is utterly ridiculous! Are you london based? Is your child from an ethnic minority background? The met have form for this kind of overkill.

soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:36

No further action

And in the footage is she defending herself or attacking him?

Theres a difference

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:38

The footage shows the resulting defence but without the first part of him attacking her it looks more like an attack on her part if that makes sense?

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LadyGaGasPokerFace · 22/02/2024 20:39

If it’s on the school grounds, don’t they have cctv?

JSMill · 22/02/2024 20:39

Poor girl. Looks like the boy's parents have made a complaint so the police have to investigate. It would be sensible to take a solicitor. It's highly unlikely further action will be taken. She has a right to defend herself reasonably.
I do feel sorry for her. It must have been scary to have been attacked like that and to then have to attend a police station must be intimidating.

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:39

No North Wales, no ethnic background

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Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:40

The options were a 3 day suspension or a complete expulsion

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soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:41

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:38

The footage shows the resulting defence but without the first part of him attacking her it looks more like an attack on her part if that makes sense?

Yes, which is why its probably got more legs than if she was seen dodging the stick/holding her hands up/running away

Its standard, a complaint has been made, in this case with clear evidence, so they have to investigate it. Generally speaking, the police are not interested in kids scrapping. You could report an offence of her being assaulted with the stick/weapon, depends what you want to do

Marcbearpig · 22/02/2024 20:41

Would she qualify for legal aid being 11? We aren't exactly a rich family

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soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:42

I believe they have to provide a solicitor if a child doesnt have one (or anyone I think)

soupfiend · 22/02/2024 20:43

And strictly speaking if the attack had 'finished' because that wasnt seen on the footage, then she wasnt defending herself at that point. Sorry to say.

Wasywasydoodah · 22/02/2024 20:43

I would report the original offence of the boy hitting her with a stick. Police can look at the cctv. Call a solicitor and ask for advice about legal aid.

eyespartyparty · 22/02/2024 20:44

A duty solicitor has to be provided to anyone who doesn't have their own representation.

This seems crazy. Is the other child also being spoken to by the police? Why is it so one-sided towards your daughter, is it solely based on the cctv?

Have the police said it's a voluntary interview? And what the consequences would be if you decline?

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