it's 12 weeks today since Steve died.

[onlyjoking9329]

I didn't think we would get throu the first few weeks to be honest, but we did and we got throu the 6 week school holiday. It has been a rollercoaster ride and there have been many many times when I have felt like giving up, but I haven't the kids are doing so very well throu all of this and they drive me to carry on drinking trying my best.
Steve will be very proud of how well the kids are doing.
The kids are back to school on Wednesday so I will be able to get some more crap paperwork sorted out, Tracy has taken the kids to pizzahut today so I can catch up on Mn sleep and get rid of this headache.
Thankyou for all your support over the last year I hope in time I will be able to support others as well as I have been supported.

[Beauregard]

OJ you are wonderful
Steve would be very very proud of you all

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

OJ as ever I am filled with admiration.

[Lilyloo]

OJ i can only say my dad said he had met his soul mate in my mum and he feels there will never be another person to replace her but if he had to do it all again knowing he would have to loose her to a brain tumour he would do it tom ?
I don't know as i haven't lost a partner but agree 'better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all'!

[Wisteria]

I can't believe it's been 12 weeks already - you are an inspiration OJ - keep on trucking and I look forward to reading some of your poetry.

I'm so glad the kids are doing well too xx

[stickyj]

OJ x

[Evenstar]

Thinking of you today OJ.

[Yorkiegirl]

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[OLIVIASMAMA]

I've never spoken to you either OJ but have read your post and seen your photos of your gorgeous family.

Well well well done you, what I have seen has really touched me, your wonderful, truly wonderful.

[chocciedooby]

OJ....you are an inspiration.

[sidelinesitter]

i have read many of your threads OJ i have spent hours reading then yesterday and today, and i feel forced to agree with everyone here.
You are bloody amazing.

i dont know how you do it but you do, i have seen your posts to CVQ and to need support, i am amazed that you find the energy to help others with such wise words. i can see that you are very popular here on mumsnet and i can see why that is.
you bring sunshine to your posts your kids are so very very lucky to have you as their mum i wished you had a mum that could support you too.
do something nice for yourself today whatever that might be.
and keep on keeping on.
(((((hugs)))))

[fortyplus]

OJ you are an inspiration

I have several friends who have lost DHs and they all say the same... the greatest comfort/release comes from meeting new people who didn't know you as part of a couple. The old friends are the best and have shared this experience and supported you through all this, but sometimes you need to 'escape' into a world where you're just oj, not poor oj whose husband died.

Hope that makes sense - it comes from the heart

[bellavita]

Thinking of you and your family as always.

You truly are an inspiration to us all.

[grouchyoscar]

OJ, your poise and mettle are an inspiration to us all. You have done fantastically and you deserve to be very proud of yourself.

You are amazing, thank you for letting us share your life at this time.

Every strength and love to you and the children and the spirit of Steve

[ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe]

Hi OJ

I can't believe it is 12 weeks already.

I think of you often, especially when I having a really crap day and I make myself put things in perspective.

You are an inspiration to lots of us.

N x

[LackaDAISYcal]

hey OJ

I think about you when I see your name in active convos.

Glad the DCs are doing well and that you are getting there; you are incredibly brave and strong.

[onlyjoking9329]

thankyou, i think we have no choice but to get on with it, ometimes that feels impossible and other times it is doable, i am still trying to get my head around it all and that is hard, i have a new status now and i don't really like it probably cos i didn't choose it, it chose me.

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

Thinking of you OJ, you really are an inspiration.

[squeaver]

OJ - look how many people's lives you and Steve have touched on here. It's amazing. And I've spotted you on cvq's threads. What a big heart you have.

[yorkiemom]

Hi OJ, Reading you post made me smile, and its fantastic to see that after such a sad time you still have your sense of humour!

You and your brave children are amazing, and Iwish you nothing but health ang happiness together.

ps I did the race for life last June, inspired by my dad, and I Will be doing it again next year, probably in memory of my lovely dad by then. Its an amazing experience, very emotional, but lovely.
I am totally unfit, just walked round with my sisters and 2 good friends.
If you can do it, then try, its a lovely day.

[onlyjoking9329]

it was a tough morning Elliot is officially a senior school boy complete with blazer, he stays in his junior class for registration and a few other things then spends the afternoon in seniors, he looked very smart (see profile photos) i cried all the way home after elliot said he wished his dad could see him, i told him that his dad like me would be very proud.
the girls went off ok they looked smart too but abbey wouldnt let me take her photo.
well thats another hurdle out of the way.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

We had fun last night

Glad you have survived today's hurdel.

[squeeze]

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

Hurdel ??

Hurdle obv.

[onlyjoking9329]

i don't know what you mean BALD last night???
it was note to do wiff me honest
it made me laugh a lot, just from watching of course i wouldn't dream of joining in

[bundle]

lovely pictures OJ - did you find the Squeeze track? let me know if not, happy to send you a copy xxx