Dad died recently after a long illness and we are all upset.
Mum cared for him at home and he had carers too.
Since he died on numerous occasions people ask me how my mum is.
It makes me really irritated as I am grieving too but everyone seems to be more concerned re how mum is doing!
Also I have received two sympathy cards and mum lots of cards.
It's as if me and my sisters are an afterthought.
I know I sound bitter but just surprised at the lack of support for me and my siblings.
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billsandcanaries · 17/04/2024 19:24
BlancheSaysYes · 17/04/2024 19:27
Condolences on the loss of your dad. How are you feeling? Are you able to get support from your friends and siblings?
Overthebow · 17/04/2024 19:29
Sorry for your loss. I guess it’s because your mum is left alone so people naturally think of her first.
billsandcanaries · 17/04/2024 19:32
I didn't think of it in this way.
I have been selfish and self centred
Overthebow · 17/04/2024 19:29
Sorry for your loss. I guess it’s because your mum is left alone so people naturally think of her first.
MintyCedric · 17/04/2024 20:13
No you haven’t.
Losing a much loved parent sucks. You are allowed to feel whatever you feel…that includes anger, resentment and disappointment.
Yes, your mum is on her own, but you only get one dad. Neither trumps the other, you have your own individual relationships with him, as did your siblings.
I’m sorry you’re not getting more RL support at such a difficult time. Do take care of yourself and try to become comfortable with allowing yourself to feel whatever you need to to process your loss.
billsandcanaries · 17/04/2024 19:32
I didn't think of it in this way.
I have been selfish and self centred
Overthebow · 17/04/2024 19:29
Sorry for your loss. I guess it’s because your mum is left alone so people naturally think of her first.
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