Does anyone have any experience of a direct cremation and if so, did you regret it?
Or do you have any thoughts...
My mum died at the weekend, she was 92 and I am her only relative.
I am veering towards a direct cremation as she was the last one left of all her group of friends. My friend says she would come with me and there are 3 elderly friends of my late stepdad who said they might be able to come but I'd have to get them there (one is 97 years old and the other 2 really don't sound well).
If they didn't or couldn't come I can't imagine anything worse than being there on my own.
Her neighbour and a friend who lives miles away have both said that my mum wasn't averse to a direct cremation . Whenever I asked her she just said she didn't care as she wouldn't be there.
In addition, there was a massive falling out between my mum and my stepdads 2 children and there has been no contact since he died almost 3 years ago. Having a direct cremation would mean that I couldn't be criticised for not telling them. They caused her so much distress that she didn't want them to know.
So a bit long I'm sorry, but I would be grateful for your opinions.
I'm happy that we said our goodbyes before she went
Thank you
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ceecee32 · 05/02/2024 18:23
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Choux ·
05/02/2024 18:37
Pacifybull · 05/02/2024 18:35
I don’t think you can attend a direct cremation.
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