Does this sound like your average six year old. If so how do you cope?

[twinsetandpearls]

She is an only child which I think think is a factor. She does not stop talking or singing. She is always dancing or jumping about. She is always trying to do flips over the couch. If we walk somewhere she can't just walk she has to skip or swing or jump on things. When she is on the phone she can't sit and talk she has to circle the room climbing on and off furniture. She is very accident prone. She is very popular with other kids but it amazes me as she can be mean and argumentative.

[twinsetandpearls]

She is a big eater, whenever she goes to someones house for tea they always comment on the amount she eats. She will also have tea at her dad's, we will pick her up and she will say daddy has not fed of so she will eat with us. . I can really relate to the battle of wills feeling. She does push and push until I snap. Today I have awful hayfever but have still tried really hard with her, we have played board games, painted pictures, walked into town for lunch but [will have to start new post.]

[twinsetandpearls]

She is a big eater, whenever she goes to someones house for tea they always comment on the amount she eats. She will also have tea at her dad's, we will pick her up and she will say daddy has not fed of so she will eat with us. . I can really relate to the battle of wills feeling. She does push and push until I snap. Today I have awful hayfever but have still tried really hard with her, we have played board games, painted pictures, walked into town for lunch but [will have to start new post.]

[hockeypuck]

Very normal. DD is exactly the same - they need an awful lot of planned activity to tire them out and to be manageable in my experience.

[twinsetandpearls]

It was still not enough and even though I kept saying very calmly mummy is not well please can you just play on your own or keep the noise down she was running around singing and dancing, constantly whittering on at me until I snapped at her 'can you not see that i am ill?' It is hard to pin down how she is mean to friends but she is constantly falling out with friends, her teacher has mentioned it to us as a concern. If someone says something mean to her she will get hysterical. She is also very bossy and

[twinsetandpearls]

Will sulk or make a big fuss until she gets her own way but other kids love her. As an example she had a friend to stay last week and she kept making daft comments to get a reaction. She has a photo of them in a frame and she put cut out a face from a magazine covering her friend while saying they were not friends anymore. They have a matching friendship necklace and dd made a big fuss of wanting to take hers off as they were not friends, while this poor girl was with us 100s miles away from home.

[singyswife]

Just read this thread and it sound EXACTLY like my dd. Think we may be sharing a child (except mine is 5 lol).

[singyswife]

Meant the OP by the way not the rest of it. lol.

[twinsetandpearls]

It does help to talk to someone with a similar child. My mum is convinced she is hyperactive (as well as repeatedly telling me I am a crap mum) but I know she isn't.

[twinsetandpearls]

Maybe we could have out own topic.

[singyswife]

at mum saying you are a crap mu. Indeed you are not. The fact that you care enough to be concerned about her speaks volumes. I think your dd is normal. They can be a bit strange at times . I often tell my dd2 she is weird (now whos the bad mum).

[singyswife]

Yeah maybe we could. My dd's problem is that although she is a sweet girl she tries to take over with friends games and then isnt happy when things dont go her way. Nursery had passed comment on it too. She is now going to school so will see how she gets on there. Tantrums and stropping wont work at school although we have been trying very hard and have managed to cut that down.

[Earlybird]

DD is slightly older (7.5), but much of this behaviour sounds familiar. I had put it down to dd being an only child (who therefore doesn't have to do much 'fitting in' or compromising/sharing, and doesn't have the same opportunity to develop negotiating skills that presumably are learned when one has a sibling).

Perhaps it's less to do with being an only child, and more to do with simply being this age?

[twinsetandpearls]

I am very interested to see how she takes to settling into a new community. At primary school she is the queen bee, she is the fastest runner, best sports player by miles, works with the older children in lessons, she is also a great artist and budding musician. She will be in an infant school though so will have to work in her class and there are more children of her age to compete with. I would imagine they will also not put up with her funny ways. Although at the holiday club she had a circle of fans!

[twinsetandpearls]

That seems to be the case hockeypuck. Our main motivation for moving was so that we had more time to do things with dd and take her to such structured activities, most of which had to stop when I returned to work.

[popsycal]

sounds like ds1

[pgwithnumber3]

My DD1 is awfully bossy too, she actually tells us how to look after DD2. Hilarious really. I am sure twinset we will look back when they are 25 and laugh our tits off!

When she was a toddler though she was always shy, used to grunt at people if they looked at her and now, she is quite gregarious.

Have to say she does have habits that make my friends who have children a similar age jealous, she goes to bed absolutely no problem and has NEVER come out of her room to come downstairs. She also stays in her room pottering until we get her up, never has she wandered into our room to wake us up. I actually don't know another child who does this! She socialises wonderfully, whereas my good friend's DD will not interact if there are more than 2 in the group. If you look at all her good points it tends to out balance the harder side of her personality.

When you say she has a circle of fans, that is wonderful. Hopefully she will always be very popular and that will be down to her having a strong personality. At least she won't be bullied, the bullies don't go for the strong kids.

DD was watching Gladiators before in our bed, I swear, I nearly tied her down to it, she just didn't keep still. She gets more wired when she it tired. Is your DD like that?
I take it you have just moved areas? DD is moving schools in September. She is a bit worried but I know she will be fine.

[scotlass]

haven't read the whole thread but it made me LOL cos when I read the title I thought just like my DD - only child in the whole family and very much loved. At times I felt like putting ear plugs in to get some peace!! However she's 9 now and I have to say she's improved no end in the last year. Now the sulks and the grunting is starting! Mine always seems to get loopy when she's tired, eaten crap or it's a full moon . TBH there was loads of little girls in her year who were bossy, loud and generally full of life. They sussed each other out and generally got on so I wouldn't worry too much.

[twinsetandpearls]

Yes she does seen to get wilder before bed. She also wanted to watch gladiators but I don't think we get in. At eight she was showing us her kung fu routine whether we wanted to see it or not. We also have started letting her run the dog around the cul-de-sac as we have figured they both have excess energy to expell. We can hear her yelling commands to him, it cracks us up. She has also taken to performing for the cows at the bottom of the garden and they seem am eager if bemused audience.

[twinsetandpearls]

I can't ever see her being bullied in fact I wish I had her confidence. Before we moved she came into work with of a few times, I taught in a very tough secondary comp with kids that make many adults feel nervous. She could completely hold her ground and was no way intimidated. In fact she would go off with the kids for lunch and break. She once told a kid who was playing up in lessons 'you would be a lot smarter if you just listened' and he did shut up.

[handlemecarefully]

Nothing like my 6 year old - but I am sure it's all normal

[twinsetandpearls]

Lol thanks hmc

[MmeLindt]

Sounds a lot like my DD. She just never sits still.

I liked this story, which sounds a bit like my DD (not that I am expecting DD to become a world famous choreographer, but it does highlight that we should let the DCs live out their exhuberance rather than trying to dampen them down all the time)

[twinsetandpearls]

Thankyou for sharing that Mmelindt it has made of think. It reminds of a conversation I heard on a bus between a mother and son. She asked how he had got his reward badge and he said I didn't talk all day. I hope I am not trying to stop her expressing herself of quash her in any way. It is so hard though particularly when I have an illness that makes me so tired. Today from seven this morning until nine tonight she has not stopped singing, dancing, talking, jumping, shouting,running etc with nobreak.

[hockeypuck]

I was thinking about this thread in bed last night twinset.

If you plan to do a craft activity or something like that for half an hour or so and give your dd your full attention can she sit and complete a task? DD is a whilrwind, a fidget, noisy, dancing, singing machine, but can sit down and concentrate too when engaged.

I guess concerns about ADHD (earlier post with link) etc would only come about if your dd was completely unable to sit and concentrate and if that were the case then the school would have been quite quick to tell you about that I assume.

She sounds lovely, a complete and crazy handful yes, but a lovely one. She will grow out of the phase soon (which will of course bring it's own sadness about your little girl growing up! Parenthood eh?)

[Hulababy]

DD is 6 and oly child too. She is always talking and singing, and generally not quiet. She found her voice very very early and hasn't stopped since. She is always on the move as well, although doesn't tend to climb much in the house - but will clamber on stuff when out and abot, such as walls, trees, etc. She tends to skip rather than walk. DD is also accidnent prone!

She is also very popular at school and with other friends as well. She isn't mean or seflish, and she shares beautifully on the whole. She is very sociable and loves to have friends to play with. But she can be a bit bossy at times - but TBH there are very very few 5 and 6 year old girls I have come across whp are not bossy!

Luckily she will play on her own too and isn't too demanding of our time that much, but she does have her moments. Have to say that we do now go on holiday with family and friends a lot and have tins of playdates, as that tends to sort that bit out, as well as me enjoying the company as well.

Oh, and the trampoline thing - they are fab, do get one. And our grass actually grows far better under the trampoline than anywhere else in the garden for some reason.