8 month old lazy and whingy

[BabyBobbins32]

Hi All, just after some advice, and to have a bit of a rant...My 8 month old has got really whingy and moody. She also seems to be way behind her peers development wise, I spoke to HV and they said not to worry yet but I can't help it. She sits up but that's about it, she doesn't roll over, she doesn't crawl, she doesn't really stand ( will occasionally but not for long and not very well) she pushes up in her arms when on belly but mostly just does swimming motion. She babbles a lot but doesn't say any words yet. We go to a baby class every week and recently she just cries through the entire thing. I'm worried I'm stopping her developing somehow, like I'm overprotective as ftm. I've always given her lots of tummy time but she's is hating it more and more. She just wants to be picked up and carried all the time, I try not to too much but sometimes when she is bawling huge tears I don't know what else to do. Any advice on how to help her develop, where I might be going wrong, how to stop the whinging would be good. She does have a lovely happy side and gives me lots of smiles and giggles but when with other people (or sometimes for seemingly no reason) she is really grumpy. A lot of my postnatal friends call her the grumpy one which is a by upsetting as she can be so lovely and happy. Sorry or the rant just feeling a bit upset about it, just want her to be happy. Thanks

[BabyBobbins32]

Started weaning at 6 months, she didn't take to it too well to start with but now loves it. On 3 meals a day and I've recently added snacks too as she seems so hungry. Still has 4 breastfeed a day and is gaining weight brilliantly so no worries there.
Thanks

[LikeASoulWithoutAMind]

I agree ShesGotLions - I would take things like this with a pinch of salt

[BabyBobbins32]

Thanks ladies...maybe it is just their interpretation...my little one babbles mama mama and dadadada but I pretty sure it's just sounds rather than me and hubby ha!x

[Ferguson]

Yes - I was going to suggest dropping the group, for a while, if not enjoying it.

Take her to the park as much as you can (weather permitting!) and look at trees, birds, animals, and there should be plenty of flowers opening now. When our DS was little he loved to watch a little stream that ran nearby.

What dolls, teddies, toys etc has she got? Share activities with her, also Duplo, shape-sorting and large-piece jigsaw puzzles. Not TO MUCH screen time, but if watching TV, share it with her, talk about things, characters, settings, etc.

Read to her a lot, share books with her, show her the pictures, and let her handle board-books or textured books. Don't have too many electronic toys that need batteries (bad for the environment, and they make nasty noises!)

Pull-along toys are good; attach a very long piece of cord, and pass it around a secure table or chair. Then, as she pulls the cord, the toy will go AWAY from her. Let her listen to SUITABLE music, and join in with 'domestic percussion' (pans and wooden spoon), or buy her bells, tambourine, little drum, etc.

[Mrscog]

Fergusons advice above is all really good, but don't be disheartened if it doesn't 'work'. I'm only saying this because my DS1 was a proper reserved little thing - he showed very little interest in anything much unless he'd chosen it, and was at the slower end of normal development - had no interest at looking at stuff that I showed him, didn't listen to books until much nearer 2, didn't watch TV etc. etc. I used to feel as though I was failing because he only ever wanted to do what he wanted to do right then, and he would not practice/do developments until he was ready - he definitely could have walked before 18 months but he just didn't want to.

However, he is nearly 4 now and I can see it was his personality - he's reserved, he only does stuff once he knows he can do it, and he is the most stubborn person I've ever met - if he doesn't want to do something he's not doing it for love nor money. He is however completely normal, and the development stuff just all caught up - you can't tell now when he's playing races with friends that he didn't walk, or that he only had 4 words until 18 months, or that he didn't really do the baby stuff of being pleased to see things people were showing him.