1 year old is really spiteful!!!!!

[GypsyTaylor]

My girl who is one is so spiteful. She marks my face and pinches me, pulls my hair out and she has made me bleed several times. She bit her dads nose the other day and he was really angry. I don't know what I can do to stop it?

[matana]

cory has hit the nail on the head. My 2yo sees other children crying and says "Crying. Naughty." We never tell him crying is naughty (because it's not) but yet he associates crying and being naughty because 'naughty' is a word he's only just learned to say and he tends to be having a crying, screaming, kicking tantrum when we occasionally get cross with him. He is only just beginning to put labels to emotions but still gets 'sad' and 'angry' mixed up. So, for example, he watches Finding Nemo when Marlin is chasing the boat and says "Marlin angry!" and i have to say "No, Marlin is sad and scared because his baby is gone. He's not angry." It's times like that i realise how little and innocent my baby still is, for all his bravado.

[Lindsay2013]

What a lot of nasty replies on here! To me it dosnt sound like you need parenting classes what so ever, just a mum looking for advice. I agree with a firm 'no' and putting down. Hope things are sorted for you now x

[megandraper]

I don't think you know what spiteful means. (I'm not saying that to be mean, just because that word is what got you a lot of negative replies, because it is impossible for a baby to be spiteful) Spiteful means malicious, with nasty or vicious intent. Knowing something will hurt, and doing it deliberately.

A 1 year old can't do that. They can't yet empathise (i.e. put themselves in your place and imagine how it feels for you.) so they can't do something deliberately to hurt you. It's just that when they do hurt you, hour reaction (crying out/jumping/shouting 'No') often seems funny to them, and encourages them to do it again.

My DD is nearly 2 and still does this. She's better at stopping when I tell her than she was, though. I say 'No, don't hurt Mummy' in a very calm, ordinary voice, and remove her hand. though I still squeal when she bites down while falling asleep on the breast, can't help it!

Both my DSs went through this stage too. They're 5 and 3 and don't do it any more, haven't for a long time. Can't remember exactly when it stopped though. You just need to stay calm and consistent and it will pass, honestly!

[NeoMaxiZoomDweebie]

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