Hi Mumsnet,
Just need some perspective here.
We have a one year old and another baby on the way. When we had our first child my partner went back to work 3 days later and I found it very difficult as he works long hours and often not home until midnight.
When we decided to have our second child he promised he would have two weeks off to help with our first daughter as I will be having a C section and can't see how I will manage both of them until I recover.
He has just informed me that he is planning on going in on the weekends on these two weeks off until 11pm. When I kicked off about it he says my mum can help me.
He says I am overreacting and trying to control what he does.
He also says it was just a thought but if he feels like he needs money he will go and I shouldn't try to control him.
I'm panicking now.
Am I being unreasonable?
AIBU?
Partner wants to go back to work same week as my C section
Fabdy · 17/04/2024 16:54
Am I being unreasonable?
261 votes. Final results.
POLLBIossomtoes · 17/04/2024 16:56
Can your mum help? And does she want to? If she can, what can he do that she can’t? I reckon she’d be a lot more use to you.
Hollybelle83 · 17/04/2024 16:59
Seconding him being a dick. That would give me the rage. Recovering from a C section can be really hard, you will need plenty of physical help not to mention emotional support. Especially with another child to look after too. Dick.
Fabdy · 17/04/2024 17:11
Thank you everyone for your responses. What would you say to him to make him realise he's being ridiculous? Or would you not say anything at all
Fabdy · 17/04/2024 17:11
Thank you everyone for your responses. What would you say to him to make him realise he's being ridiculous? Or would you not say anything at all
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BloodyAdultDC · 17/04/2024 17:56
I would tell him that I was moving to my mum's for the foreseeable.
Ducks in a row op. How's your relationship otherwise? Sounds like he's checked out of that as well as parenting.
Fabdy · 17/04/2024 17:11
Thank you everyone for your responses. What would you say to him to make him realise he's being ridiculous? Or would you not say anything at all
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