DC turned 1 last month. Ever since she was born DH loves playing fighting with her. Sometimes it has not been developmentally appropriate and she was too young eg. pulling her to a standing position by her hands, making her "fly on a broomstick" by placing her on her tummy on his forearm... It always sends shots of anxiety through me and I'm forever telling him to play gently. HOWEVER I am very aware I'm an anxious person generally and I generally prefer playtimes to be more gentle hence my AIBU post to just sensecheck I'm not being unreasonable..
Most recently, it was:
- perhaps 10 mins after a full bottle of milk he tipped her upside down (DC giggled and enjoyed it).
- DC recovered from nappy rash a few weeks ago and through troubleshooting, we realised we weren't drying her thoroughly enough before putting on her barrier cream. We use soft Kleenexes to pat her bum dry now before putting the cream on. The other day DH was thumping her bum and more.sensitive areas dry and then sort of shaking her bum with the tissue quite vigorously (imagine the movement you might make to mix hot and cold water in a bath tub to get the temperature consistent). I felt like DH was being too forceful..
- he tips DC over on her head a lot and gives her a shake. DC usually finds it funny.
AIBU to think this isn't safe? And is too rough? I really don't want DC to grow up to want to play rough and tumble all the time (and yes I would feel the same if I had sons).