I'm sorry, i just can't help myself, ive tried to resist posting (for about five minutes i have you know!!) about a CM DP and i encountered today. Totally none of our business, its hardly child abuse but.....I don't know who to judge more, the parents for leaving thier children with this woman or her.
I have seen this woman on more than one occasion with children in cafe, often thought, oh, she looks about as lonely as i am. Often there with two children in buggy, never get out of buggy etc, while she drinks coffee - ok, i do this with DD, although she gets a babychino and gets to run around and be a pain. Bit off i thought, considering you are being paid to look after these children. But today took the biscuit, She struggles into cafe behind DP and myself today (i'll die if she mns it will be so obvious, but im suitably disgusted so...) with a phil and teds with toddler in front seat, shopping in baby carrier and baby in her arms, how she didnt drop the poor wee mite i'll never know.
She sits down and generally starts moaning about the baby, how she has been screaming, how she just has to have a coffee and organise a bottle, spends 10 minutes talking to the guy in the deli before getting baby a bottle. Just seems to have no affection for the baby whatsoever, just pokes bottle in her mouth and says things like, come on, youve got your bottle now, the woman looks stressed to the hilt (i know that feeling so well) and sits and whinges to DP about the baby, tells him, oh shes not mine i child mind, then goes on to inform us that she is really poorly, after she had vomitted up her bottle and cough cough coughed everywhere. Then moans to a passing friend about how hard her day is and generally whinges about how hard her job is.
You know what, it is a hard job, and if i thought this woman a harrased mother i would be, fuck, you poor cow, i know just how you feel. But you would think wouldnt you that as a CM, you might actually like what you do, AND do something a little bit more constructive with your mindees time. Yes visit the cafe, as a treat for them, but do bear in mind you are being paid to look after these children and to me, that means, a little more than just make sure they don't keel over or walk in front of a bus.
So yes, i am being judgey judgey judgey, but shit, there is no way that i would leave my children with this woman and i just can't help but wonder if she puts on a very different front to the parents.
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lucyellensmum · 18/03/2008 16:30
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