Not sure how to word this. My sister is pregnant we do have a good relationship I should add and we help each other out I should point this out.
It is the summer holidays and she is due her baby. Aibu to say that I won't just be on standby to watch her son when she goes into labour? I have said if I am free then of course I will help but I also have my own kids and work which I won't be able to just take days off without getting in trouble for it and I can't pull a sickie as I have had some genuine sick days and it will trigger a warning. I also have a few things planned for the past 8wks which I don't want to drop as this is specific things I have been waiting to be able to do I don't mind rearranging somethings but one or two events I don't want to cancel as I've been waiting for them and this is the only time I can do it. Is it selfish of me to say I'll help if I can but don't just expect me to do it? She does have a partner and her son is very very clingy and will definitely cry most of the time he's with me.
AIBU?
Aibu to not be on standby for sisters baby?
Anonplease · 15/08/2022 21:46
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLAnonplease · 16/08/2022 08:16
I've spoken to her told her the days I'm unavailable and she is absolutely fine with it I was stressing for no reason at all. She will ask his parents and she completely understands. Once again thank you for the replies.
BlodynGwyn · 16/08/2022 03:51
We took our son to the hospital with us when I went into labour and gave birth. Can't you do that in the UK?!
Anonplease · 16/08/2022 08:23
The roles were reversed and I have birth to my last child alone and my partner was with the other kids. No one was there to help with childcare I done what I had to do what other choice did I have.
Bywayofanupdate · 16/08/2022 08:20
I would probably think about how I would feel if the roles were reversed.
RealityTV · 17/08/2022 07:15
@Anonplease, stop being a baby! You're a grown woman! Have a frank discussion with your sister and tell her you have some things planned so you won't be able to watch your nephew when she enters the hospital. You are acting immature in not speaking up. I don't know what the two of you have discussed, but you have to put your big girl pants on and just tell her so she doesn't think she can count on you AND so she can make other arrangements. You aren't out of line for having things to do UNLESS you told her you be there for her! So just tell the truth and stop being a baby so she can make alternate arrangements!
Strawberries86 · 22/08/2022 04:04
I would fly across the world to my sister in this circumstance and vice versa.
Id be informing my employer that I need a annual leave day at short notice because of these circumstances. I’d be warning an friends I had plans with I might have to cancel at short notice.
You 2 are sisters, why wouldn’t you be there for each other?
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