Who exactly do this lot think are going to be looking after them in hospitals and care homes when they're elderly and infirm?
If only those who could really afford to have kids had them - a decreasing well-off demographic -we'd be even more fucked than we already are.
Immigration is not a long-term solution when 80% of elderly are going to be spread across low and middle-affluent countries by 2050, either. Every country is going to need their own citizens.
Instead of resenting people who need their wages topped-up by the government in order to afford having a couple of kids - maybe embrace those who are making sacrifices to have kids at all, especially in the face of the overwhelming decrease in value that society and successive governments have placed on the role of raising children.
AIBU?
the "don't have kids if u can't afford them" mentality...
MermaidCheeks · 06/08/2022 14:23
Am I being unreasonable?
1641 votes. Final results.
POLLantelopevalley · 06/08/2022 15:40
I have worked in care work. Most care workers have not been born in Britain. So for that YABU.
AhaLyn · 06/08/2022 15:42
Also in regards to care staffing crisis, maybe we should be paying carers more than the joke wage of 10 quid an hour in the counties with biggest portion of ageing population.
Weefreetiffany · 06/08/2022 15:43
Maybe if we valued caring and build communities so we focus on caring for eachother, children, elderly, friends and neighbours, rather than glorifying individuals amassing as much money as possible but who don’t have the time for anything else and think caring is actually beneath them, we wouldn’t need to have this conversation.
why is it we allow energy companies to make billions, more money than they can spend in a lifetime, while millions of human beings have to choose between heating an eating?
BigChesterDraws · 06/08/2022 15:03
Oh goodie, the old “my children will be working to pay your pension” myth. No, they won’t. The working childless people have paid more than their fair share into the pension pot throughout their lives. They have continuously paid into the “general welfare fund” without receiving child benefit, SMP, tax credits, free school meals, or any other such benefits.
Your children will be working for their own pension. If they have a job. They could be on the dole their entire lives, in prison, unable to work through accident or illness. No one can predict the future.
Who do we think will be caring for us in old age? If we need care, and remember not every 80-year-old is in a nursing home and advances in science mean that people are living independently longer, it will be someone that we pay to look after us. Your children might be glad of the job opportunity.
Cornettoninja · 06/08/2022 15:44
The over-reactionary defensive response from people posed to the practical dilemma faced by everybody isn’t exactly helpful.
It is a fact that birth rates are declining and it’s a fact that will affect the quality of life of the increasing elderly population. It’s perfectly fair for someone to point out that the stereotypical channel 5 documentary family aren’t the problem here and whatever ‘benefits’ they’re claiming is more than a drop in the ocean compared to chaos coming in society. It’s a distraction and not worthy of the level of public scorn it receives.
AhaLyn · 06/08/2022 15:40
The NHS is crumbling because it’s being choked on purpose towards privatisation.
I won’t be having kids when I can’t feed myself. Hope that’s okay.
HailAdrian · 06/08/2022 14:41
It's the privileged of mumsnet who think that no one on a low income deserves to have children.
Capri3 · 06/08/2022 15:46
This.
Out of the 11 elderly people I have known (aged 75 to 93) who have died, one needed carers in twice a day for a couple of months. The whole “you’ll need someone to wipe your arse in your old age” nonsense that frequently comes up on these threads is complete crap.
BigChesterDraws · 06/08/2022 15:03
Oh goodie, the old “my children will be working to pay your pension” myth. No, they won’t. The working childless people have paid more than their fair share into the pension pot throughout their lives. They have continuously paid into the “general welfare fund” without receiving child benefit, SMP, tax credits, free school meals, or any other such benefits.
Your children will be working for their own pension. If they have a job. They could be on the dole their entire lives, in prison, unable to work through accident or illness. No one can predict the future.
Who do we think will be caring for us in old age? If we need care, and remember not every 80-year-old is in a nursing home and advances in science mean that people are living independently longer, it will be someone that we pay to look after us. Your children might be glad of the job opportunity.
notOKtoday · 06/08/2022 15:45
I have a very large family and often get people saying to me how bad for the planet it is BUT we don’t have a car or use air travel so it’s offset whereas the people who criticise me have 2 or 3 children , 2 family cars and go on multiple holidays a year
antelopevalley · 06/08/2022 15:40
I have worked in care work. Most care workers have not been born in Britain. So for that YABU.
MermaidCheeks · 06/08/2022 15:46
Yes, bit surprised at the scornful response to my post to be honest.
The impending issue is clearly less widely acknowledged/known about than I realised!
Cornettoninja · 06/08/2022 15:44
The over-reactionary defensive response from people posed to the practical dilemma faced by everybody isn’t exactly helpful.
It is a fact that birth rates are declining and it’s a fact that will affect the quality of life of the increasing elderly population. It’s perfectly fair for someone to point out that the stereotypical channel 5 documentary family aren’t the problem here and whatever ‘benefits’ they’re claiming is more than a drop in the ocean compared to chaos coming in society. It’s a distraction and not worthy of the level of public scorn it receives.
User135792468 · 06/08/2022 15:49
Of course you shouldn’t have children if you don’t have enough money to feed and clothe them. It’s irresponsible and selfish. Having a child isn’t a right so if you can’t earn enough to meet their basic needs, then you don’t deserve to have a child.
I have the number I can afford and give a good life to. I’ve made a conscious decision to not have more for financial reasons as my obligation is to take care of them and give them a good life.
People who live in overcrowded accommodation because they have a 2 bed flat with 5 children and are then moaning as the council won’t give them a bigger house should not be procreating. If they want to be a parent, then they could have 1 and not 5. People should absolutely not have more children then they can afford. Of course I would judge them, how could you not judge someone openly selfish and irresponsible? Bringing your child into a life of poverty to meet your own needs is neglect.
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