I devastated by my 26 yr old daughters tattoos

[Choclover27]

Yup. I hate them. Today she showed me her new ‘sleeve’. It’s big black bold and bloody awful. She already has numerous tattoos and they’re getting bigger each time. She seems addicted. I don’t like tattoos. I don’t have to like them. That’s my choice. I’ve cried over it/her in private ! I’ve read up about parents reactions to our kids tattoos. And we are supposed to be happy that they are expressing themselves. But I’m struggling with that. I was ok with a few, ok with all the piercings… but the sleeve is too far. In my opinion. Does anyone else feel like me or am I the bitch mother from hell?

[XenoBitch]

@safclass

I think that in the past tattoos probably had 'a reputation' esp when on a woman. I think that's massively changed - go into any store / office / hospital / school and you will find some extremely professional workers with tattoos - they don't stop your career in the way they used. Some look bloody awful and others are beautiful, intricate and meaningful and I are really works of art.
As op have said you have no say, she's an adult, but that works both ways and you can tell her you're not a fan. You don't need to be upsetting about it - compliment the quality of the work etc but add but it's not my thing.

Yep, this.
I have met anaesthetists with sleeve tattoos, and countless other HCPs. All amazing at their jobs. Funnily enough, a bit of ink does not stop someone being great in their career.

[whiteroseredrose]

@BellatrixOnABadDay

You know, how are some of you going to cope if your precious little babies come home with their pure virgin skin covered like THIS

That'll give you all nightmares 😁

Bleuch!

[safclass]

I think that in the past tattoos probably had 'a reputation' esp when on a woman. I think that's massively changed - go into any store / office / hospital / school and you will find some extremely professional workers with tattoos - they don't stop your career in the way they used. Some look bloody awful and others are beautiful, intricate and meaningful and I are really works of art.
As op have said you have no say, she's an adult, but that works both ways and you can tell her you're not a fan. You don't need to be upsetting about it - compliment the quality of the work etc but add but it's not my thing.

[MummyPebble]

^In the main, this place is now populated by very bored people with no jobs, minimal friends and little else to occupy their minds other than being twats on the internet.

I just read it and laugh these days. Gone are the days of intelligent conversation and genuine wit.^

My response upthread was in reply to this, I did quote but my tattoo addled self obviously couldn’t do it properly. I see now it’s evening there’s far more rational calm polite discourse, which kinda supports the jobless very bored prats theory

As for the poster using the word 🤢ickle🤢, think I’d rather have tattoos than be a full grown woman speaking like that Have a word with yourself.

[SquirrelG]

@TamTamChew

Yes IME there is a lot of talk behind their backs. But you wouldn’t have heard any of it if from young men if they feel you would judge them for it.

No young man I have ever met would talk about someone behind their backs just because they had tattoos! The very idea is laughable. If I met one who did then they are not the sort of young man I would want to associate with. I'm sure there are people here who don't like tattoos, but they are so mainstream that people really don't take a lot of notice. However, I don't live in the UK - and thank goodness if that is the type of young men you have there!

[Twillow]

@BuickMcKane

What's with this 'it's so unattractive' bullshit? I didn't realise people lived their lives to be seen as attractive to others? It's such a shallow thing to say. People are so much more than just their skin!

That's a ridiculous thing to say. People would never get haircuts, wear make-up or use mirrors if they didn't care about being seen as attractive - let alone instagram and filters!
But yes I agree that it's shallow.

[BuickMcKane]

What's with this 'it's so unattractive' bullshit? I didn't realise people lived their lives to be seen as attractive to others? It's such a shallow thing to say. People are so much more than just their skin!

[BellatrixOnABadDay]

You know, how are some of you going to cope if your precious little babies come home with their pure virgin skin covered like THIS

That'll give you all nightmares 😁

[Twillow]

I cried when my daughter said she might get one! To me, it seems like committing to, say, the same fashion style or music taste for the rest of your life. So many people seem to regret them later plus ink on older skin is so unnatractive imo. I know I might be in a minority!

[DearlyBeloathed]

That’ll teach me. There are some desperately tragic, sad people on here and it’s horrifying there are such miserable people out there

Totally agree.

[BuickMcKane]

@dressicarabbit

I would be devastated too OP. Tattoos make me feel sick. The thought of my precious DD scarring her beautiful skin makes me want to weep. I hope she never does.

Good lord get a grip.

[orangeblosssom]

Just hope she doesn't want to tattoo her face

[BlackCatz]

You can’t demand that they don’t

I never demanded a thing.

[MummyPebble]

Yeh, I just stick to the Christmas bargain threads now. I only ventured into this post as it was linked in that little ‘trending now’ box at the bottom of the page. That’ll teach me. There are some desperately tragic, sad people on here and it’s horrifying there are such miserable people out there. I thought I was friends with people from all walks of life but apparently I reside in an echo chamber.

[CounsellorTroi]

@BlackCatz

The thought of my precious DD scarring her beautiful skin makes me want to weep

Bleugh.

What is with all these weird remarks about skin on this thread?

Tattoos are a deliberate permanent marking of the skin. Some people do find them disfiguring whether you like it or not. You can’t demand that they don’t.

[Sillysop92]

My daughter has a couple of tattoos, I dislike them. She has beautiful skin but I feel they are marred by them. I know that it's her body but I can't help how I feel. I would never tell her. I don't much care for any tattoos on anyone either.

[daisyjgrey]

@dressicarabbit

I would be devastated too OP. Tattoos make me feel sick. The thought of my precious DD scarring her beautiful skin makes me want to weep. I hope she never does.

Pull yourself together, good lord.

[BlackCatz]

The thought of my precious DD scarring her beautiful skin makes me want to weep

Bleugh.

What is with all these weird remarks about skin on this thread?

[BellatrixOnABadDay]

@Tinimineymoo

The thing is, everyone judges. Tattoos are another judgement point, whether you like it or not. As parents we want the best opportunities for our children so it's our job to worry about them facing societal judgement for something they did out of choice, and potential consequences. And as a parent no matter what age is the child, we will always advise and warn. It's what parenting is. It doesn't finish when the child hits 18. It's completely normal to feel this way op.

Yet it's only the regressive attitudes of posters (mainly parents too) on here and other small minded people that mean there is any judgement from society and concern over opportunity. What does that even mean, anyway? Tattoos don't seem to affect anyone at work any more.

They're tattoos. We aren't talking about shoplifting/drink driving/drug dealing. Just body art. Even if you don't like how they look, which is totally understandable, how can they be judged negatively in 2022?

[dressicarabbit]

I would be devastated too OP. Tattoos make me feel sick. The thought of my precious DD scarring her beautiful skin makes me want to weep. I hope she never does.

[StoneofDestiny]

And as a parent no matter what age is the child, we will always advise and warn. It's what parenting is. It doesn't finish when the child hits 18. It's completely normal to feel this way op

Agree

[StoneofDestiny]

I hate tattoos and get why you feel as you do about your daughter. Nothing you can do about it, so you'll have to just accept that is her 'taste'. It's a matter of opinion for everybody and what constitutes a good use of your money.
It's a huge fashion thing - and at some point there will be a kick back from it (and maybe something much worse will become the flavour of the decade instead)

[Tinimineymoo]

Sorry but I think you don't instead...

[Tinimineymoo]

The thing is, everyone judges. Tattoos are another judgement point, whether you like it or not. As parents we want the best opportunities for our children so it's our job to worry about them facing societal judgement for something they did out of choice, and potential consequences. And as a parent no matter what age is the child, we will always advise and warn. It's what parenting is. It doesn't finish when the child hits 18. It's completely normal to feel this way op.

[DearlyBeloathed]

@etulosba

I’m not keen. Acceptable on sailor’s forearms, but that’s about it.

Get back to the 1950s.