Iv been shamed online for being a shouty mum

[WaitroseAldi]

I’m so upset.

So I’m a shouty mum, always have been and my children are absolutely fine. They are 13,11 and 5.

I don’t always shout, but it’s when Iv asked numerous times to do something or not.

There is a woman who lives behind me, she has bipolar and switches all the time, one min she’s your friend next she’s horrible.

I put a post on a local group about my cat being attacked and coming home with a cut ear. She started being rude about how cats fight and it’s nature. She then put this.

I’m so embarrassed and upset. We have had to listen to her numerous times fighting with her ex’s, police being called, her having fights with another local woman.

Im so upset and ashamed. 😔 my kids say I don’t shout much, especially since Iv started new medication over a year ago for my BPD.

One time me and dh were having a heated discussion lol and she actually walked in my house to see what was wrong. we Never argue but wtf.

[EmeraldShamrock]

By Christ you took a screenshot immediately 👍🏻 Good work, shouty.


Me too, proper laughing. 🤣

[DrSbaitso]

@Gin4thewin4

Awk come on. Of course we have all shouted at our kids. For those who "haven't" , have you never had to shout at your child to grab their attention before doing something dangerous? Ie about to step out on the road or batman off a slide???

I shout at my kids. If they don't listen to instructions after I have repeated myself for half an hour, yes i will shout and I will tell them why I have had to shout.

Shouting to make sure you're heard in a dangerous situation isn't shouting "at" someone, ffs.

Also, what is this about kids running into the road? That's the example the smacking parents always use too. Why are shouters and smackers so shit with road safety? How come they don't keep hold of their kids around roads if the kids are too young to be road safe?

Big grins, shouting is cool!

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

No amount of bad behaviour on her part excuses the fact that you yell at your kids

Jesus go polish that halo

People
Shout

Sometimes

[babbaloushka]

@WalkersAreNotTheOnlyCrisps

By Christ you took a screenshot immediately 👍🏻 Good work, shouty.

This made me laugh unreasonable amounts.

[justforthisnow]

Ask the moderators to delete.
And stop shouting.

[DroopyClematis]

Maybe you shout too much?

[AnneLovesGilbert]

@Gin4thewin4

Awk come on. Of course we have all shouted at our kids. For those who "haven't" , have you never had to shout at your child to grab their attention before doing something dangerous? Ie about to step out on the road or batman off a slide???

I shout at my kids. If they don't listen to instructions after I have repeated myself for half an hour, yes i will shout and I will tell them why I have had to shout.

No one’s neighbour ever complained about a parent shouting to stop walking into a road. You’re being incredibly disingenuous.

If you’re a regular shouter your children will pay far less attention to you warning them of danger than if you reserve raising your voice until absolutely necessary.

We know people who shout at their son often. His eyes glaze over now. He’s heard it all before and either could no longer give a shit or has withdrawn from the noise and aggro.

[Falaffeleybollocks]

Shuddering at anyone thinking being a shouty mum is anything but totally not okay

[gingercat02]

I grew up with shouty parents. Your children are probably not OK! I rarely shout for that very reason. You have no idea how soul destroying it is

[Gin4thewin4]

Awk come on. Of course we have all shouted at our kids. For those who "haven't" , have you never had to shout at your child to grab their attention before doing something dangerous? Ie about to step out on the road or batman off a slide???

I shout at my kids. If they don't listen to instructions after I have repeated myself for half an hour, yes i will shout and I will tell them why I have had to shout.

[Jumpalicious]

@Bryonyshcmyony

I don't lose my temper and shout at my kids. I had a mother who did though and it was absolutely horrible.

Yup, and would justify it as “normal”, underplay it, or blame the kids, just like some (all?) of the shouty mums on here...

There are other ways to deal with children.

[Mymapuddlington]

Nobody has said they don’t shout at their kids but raising your voice occasionally is different from being a self professed ‘shouty mum’ surely? I live in an ancient house with one neighbour and she has heard me shout once in the last 3 years, she text me to make sure everything was ok! Don’t get me wrong I raise my voice sometimes but very rarely shout.

[GreyhoundG1rl]

@OrangeRug

Ignore all the people on here who claim they never shout at their kids OP. We all lose our tempers sometimes. I know I lose mine more often than I would like,

Op has admitted to shouting/screaming at her kids all their lives, loud enough for people to query it on the local WhatsApp group.
How utterly asinine to tell her to ignore anyone claiming not to do similar, they must be lying.
I can't get over the sheer idiocy of your post, actually, it's breathtaking.

[Bryonyshcmyony]

I don't lose my temper and shout at my kids. I had a mother who did though and it was absolutely horrible.

[EmeraldShamrock]

Ignore all the people on here who claim they never shout at their kids OP. We all lose our tempers sometimes. I know I lose mine more often than I would like
Few are claiming to never shout, losing the head no and again it very far from a parent suffering from BPD who constantly shouts enough for neighbours to hear and use the word constantly in her text.
That's losing control of yourself and damaging.

[PassionfruitOrangeGuava]

@OrangeRug

Ignore all the people on here who claim they never shout at their kids OP. We all lose our tempers sometimes. I know I lose mine more often than I would like,

No, we really, really don't all lose our tempers and shout at our kids. The fact that you think people stating this must be lying is really worrisome.

[DrSbaitso]

@OrangeRug

Ignore all the people on here who claim they never shout at their kids OP. We all lose our tempers sometimes. I know I lose mine more often than I would like,

Ignore me if you like, but I assure you I exist.

[OrangeRug]

But yeah I would avoid these community pages like the plague. Just leave them.

[OrangeRug]

Ignore all the people on here who claim they never shout at their kids OP. We all lose our tempers sometimes. I know I lose mine more often than I would like,

[TheTuesdayPringle]

You and your neighbour are both very attached to drama, aren't you. How's that working out for you?

[Glitterandglow]

This sounds stressful sorry OP. Tell the lady to leave you alone. And get off social media .

[EmeraldShamrock]

Your neighbours sound worse by the minute, you don't seem very well either. Why do you get so personal on SM?

[GreyhoundG1rl]

Some nutter took a picture of two people walking g down the road last year and shamed them.on FB
Said shame said they was with with their husband and did the poster want their block knocked off. People naming and shamed local teens, their mum threatening to slap them in return. Not for me.
Not sure I understood all that but it sounds extremely strange.
Also unsure what being a very expensive village has to do with any of it.

[Legoandloldolls]

You neighbour sounds a bit bonkers rushing to your house all the time. I wonder how you could legally stop her?

There is a shouty mum at school. I'm not sure she even realises it. It seems like habit. The kids do nothing and she shouts at them without fail at every pick up from.school. I mean this nicely, do you maybe come across louder than you are aware of? Maybe you dont who am I to say.

As a aside, I try to avoid engaging on local SM accounts. I live in a very very expensive village. In a very expensive posh town. But most of the posters on the village and town FB page are unhinged. None of the sane reasonable voices are present. I think they all avoid posting.

Some nutter took a picture of two people walking g down the road last year and shamed them.on FB
Said shame said they was with with their husband and did the poster want their block knocked off. People naming and shamed local teens, their mum threatening to slap them in return. Not for me.

[SecondCityShark]

She sounds infuriating. She needs to be told firmly to stay out of your business OP. Don't threaten or shout, just tell her that she is not to approach your property or to walk into your house from this moment on.