To hate snobs with a passion???

[SneakyBlinder]

I was just chatting to my neighbour and she was telling me that her son has a new girlfriend (I’ve known her son for years) she was saying how nice the gf is and how happy he is with her. Then she said “the only downside of course is that she lives in ” (an area about 25 mins from where we live)
I was a bit taken aback by this and said “does it matter? It’s just a house, on a road” and she said “of course it matters...that’s not what I wanted for DS”

Now this has really got my back up. When I had my eldest DD I was given a HA place in a less then popular area of my city. I didn’t care though, it was mine and I was happy. I made it nice. I worked hard, got my degree, worked full time and although things were tight most of the time, me and DD were happy. It didn’t matter what road our house was on....

Am I being naive? Do people really judge other people by where their house happens to be? Regardless of whether the person had any choice in where they were housed?

[WaterOffADucksCrack]

I used to work in a Waitrose in Yorkshire. A customer complained about our accents being "too common" to the general manager! Tbh if I have someonr judging me in that way I just accentuate all of my "common" features!

[MikeUniformMike]

The snobbishness towards renting winds me up, especially the "money down the drain" comments.

If we had more council houses, we'd have fewer people renting privately in insecure, over-priced, short-term lets.

[ILoveTotoro]

@4cats2kids

It shouldn’t matter but people do judge council tenants.

They do and it's crazy

But I loved being a council tenant (apart from the judging which really did fuck me off). Genuinely affordable rent, secure tenancy (lifetime if we wanted it) and we could decorate how we wanted. I had it absolutely lovely

And I've now been able to buy somewhere thanks to having cheap rent for years

So the judgey fuckers can fuck right off cos council tenants are lucky in many ways

[frog22]

@Ireolu

We had a neighbor come to complain to us about noise. Our builders started work at 7am. He made sure to drop into conversation that he worked in a particular field that meant he needed sleep. His face when he found out (he asked we didn't volunteer) that we were in a similar field but in more senior positions. The human condition is a strange one. I am used to being looked down at and underestimated. It drives me :)

We of course apologised and spoke to the builders ensuring they started at 8am from then on.

A similar thing happened to me a few years ago. I'm quite modest and don't really like to brag but it put this person in their place and you can only imagine their face when they found out I was 15 years younger than them.

[JammyHands]

She sounds very insecure. She probably thinks you're posher than she is and wants to keep her end up.

[MikeUniformMike]

@CherryPavlova, what does morge mean?

[Ireolu]

We had a neighbor come to complain to us about noise. Our builders started work at 7am. He made sure to drop into conversation that he worked in a particular field that meant he needed sleep. His face when he found out (he asked we didn't volunteer) that we were in a similar field but in more senior positions. The human condition is a strange one. I am used to being looked down at and underestimated. It drives me :)

We of course apologised and spoke to the builders ensuring they started at 8am from then on.

[CherryPavlova]

Surrey is usually said, “Surrey tinkly laugh” around here. It’s seen as very morge and amusing that people would say it with any expectation of it being impressive.

It’s not all snobbery though, is it? We moved from a very poor area of East Anglia to Sussex because our home town at the time was beset with low expectations and indolence. We wanted peers for our children who felt learning was a good thing, who weren’t from families who were third generation unemployed and who thought university was the norm. It was about wanting more for our children, not snobbery.

[feelingfragile]

[quote bringbacksideburns]@feelingfragile
I meant the Cheshire one [/quote]
Still none the wiser 😂

[caramelbun]

It sounds like your friend is trying too hard to look posh.

I can’t imagine disapproving of someone purely because they’re from a certain area. It makes no sense.

[MikeUniformMike]

@Plsnomorepeppapig, I don't normally describe myself as being mc but I get accused of being it. I find it mildly amusing, as the people who do it are not exactly working class but have aspirations that I don't have.

I have read Harry Wallop's Consumed.

[4cats2kids]

It shouldn’t matter but people do judge council tenants.

[frog22]

I always find the people that are 'snobs' are usually the ones that are either trying to hide a poor upbringing and are one paycheque away from being on benefits or living in a council house themselves.

[MikeUniformMike]

You don't need to tell anyone, they'll know.

[topcat2014]

I am MC, the thought of telling anyone this gives me shudders

[bringbacksideburns]

@feelingfragile
I meant the Cheshire one

[GetYourGoatYouHavePulled]

I used to work with someone who made comments on people from council estates, such as, ‘my husband shaved my sons hair and now he looks like a kid from a council estate’, and ‘I don’t know why he (other colleague) bought that car, it looks like a car you see on council estate’.

Loved the look on her face when I turned round one day and said, I’m from a council estate, do I look like that? She couldn’t backtrack quick enough. The idea that someone from a council estate could have a professional career and be higher up the ladder than she was blew her mind!

[feelingfragile]

@SirGawain

RHWOC The Real Housewives of Orange County.
An American TV series,

Thanks, none the wiser 😂

[rosiejaune]

@OneRingToRuleThemAll

I agree with you. I live in a first floor flat on the main road, above a row of shops. I've lost count of the amount of people who say they wouldn't live where I live, and then go on to say they can't afford to buy their own home. The flat with a tiny mortgage that no one wanted and people look down on is good enough for me.

Well that's not necessarily snobbery.

Humans evolved to be surrounded by greenery, not traffic noise and fumes.

[Justjoshin22]

It is shit when people make judgements based on accent, what city or area your from. Regardless of whether you’re seen as ‘posh’ or ‘rough’. Obviously these things don’t make you any better or worse than anyone else!
I lived in an ok area growing up but not great. School wasn’t very good, more than a few troublemakers, regular trouble at the local shops and the houses were ok but pretty small and a bit crowded. I now live in a really lovely home in a great area - I am not ashamed, I worked hard to get it. But someone said to me ‘why would you pay £x just to live in xxx? It’s full of snobs. I’d rather a cheaper house where I grew up and where my family are’
There is nothing wrong with aspiration and I hope my kids are able to live in a nice area and have nice things when they are grown. Maybe that’s what your neighbour meant.
That, however, is different than looking down on people and feeling somehow better than them because of your postcode.

[Deathraystare]

When I lived in Shirley (Surrey) we were in Surrey but the carpark and shops at the end of the garden were in Kent!

[jessstan2]

Thornton Heath has a Surrey postal address though.

Yes but it is in a London borough.

[Desiringonlychild]

@jessstan2 but that's the thing- I might only ever afford a flat! I want to work and childcare is often expensive and unreliable so having my mother in law nearby when I have a baby would be great even if I pay for childcare. Plus my mother in law can't drive and therefore moving far out to a place like Watford (where £400k could probably get a small house) wouldn't work for us as she wouldn't be able to get there using public transport.

We also have a close relationship, I am seeing her 3 times this week. Thats not something having a house would make up for, I think. But yeah people do judge me for that cos I guess most people don't have parents who live in such expensive areas and also can't drive. My mother in law isn't rich but she was very fixed on area (she had 3 kids in a studio flat before she could afford to move and also had help from parents).

[Mimilamore]

It's vile and very common. I live in a part of town with a very bad reputation, lived here for 40 years...
House is large for a terrace with a lovely, big garden and although there is trouble in the street at times, we have never felt at risk.
I'd never swap my ghetto house for one of the poorly built new homes on the states that are springing up here, all fur coat and no knickers, will look like crap in 20 years....
You're home is what you make it once the door closes....

[UmbrellaHat]

I have an ex boyfriend living in Yorkshire who judges me because so live in Surrey like I must have morphed into a blue rinse Hyacinth Bucket when moving South.