Is my ex MIL being a goady c##t?

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Or AIBU? My ex and I split acrimoniously 2 years ago and I always struggled with my interfering MIL during our relationship. The ex and I co-parent fine now. When we split, i got a lot of my feelings for my MIL off my chest to her and we are NC now. My DD spends 3 school nights at my ex's. The rest of the time with me. It's my 11 year old's birthday this week and she spent the day with her dad and his family. My exMIL, as part of her birthday present to her, gave her some personalised notelets with my DD's name and my ex's address on them. I've taken this as passive aggressive gesture. As though her main home is at my ex's. I know i should brush it off, but I feel she's trying to have a dig. Am I being over-sensitive or is she being a goady c**t?

Yes a bit goady but let it ride over you. No reaction is the best reaction.

Don't rise to her, she wants a reaction from you don't give it to her. X

She has two homes. I don’t see the problem to be honest.

Yep she sounds like a pain, another good reason to not me with the ex

@billybagpuss exactly. They will probably never see the light of day, they will lie in a draw or cupboard for a couple of years then end up in the recycling

Perhaps she's hoping your DD will write thank you notes.

My DC is only a bit older than yours and they write lovely notes to relatives and friends to say thank you for presents. But that's when they're with me. I believe they do the same when they are with their dad. (But as he never said thank you for presents when he was married to me it would be a bit surprising).

So perhaps your DD can keep the lovely new notelets at her dad's and he can encourage their use.

Astonished by some other posters on here that their kids dont know what a notelet/writing paper would be used for.

I get it.

Its not the notelets, its the notelets on top of everything else.

So on their own, its not a big deal but as a straw on the camels back.......

However I do agree with the others that its a pretty crap attempt at a dig. Give it a couple of days, bin them and I bet your DD wont even notice.

Yes, goady. Yes, she sounds like a proper c.
Don't react. Sounds like your dd already has her sussed