...to be in tears already - at work [wfh]

[ILoveJoeBrown]

DS17 is doing an important exam upstairs; parrot is squawking in living room; dog was outside, barking at next door's builders; I'm working at my desk in the kitchen, in the middle of something.

DH comes marching down in his towel to remonstrate with me as I haven't brought the dog in yet as he'll be upsetting the neighbourhood and disturbing DS's exam - never mind the noise the builders are making.

Already feeling the tears coming. Silly things make me cry and I feel constantly under pressure that I'm not doing enough.

Anyone else feeling weepy at everything?

[saraclara]

Someone else is in tears because they can't concentrate or relax because there's a dog barking and its owners can't be bothered stopping it.

[LannieDuck]

So you were working... was he? If not, it's his job to sort out the dog.

If you were a man, you'd be locked away in your office and it would be taken for granted that your partner would sort out everyone else in the house.

[2pinkginsplease]

SEcon part of my comments was for @rookiemere but it disappeared .

[saraclara]

If I keep the dog locked indoors and have the windows open, I will end up cleaning pee off the floor at some point as I don't have eyes in the back of my head while I'm working

Well then set an alarm every hour, let him out to pee, then bring him in again.
You're annoyed at anyone disrupting you, but are happily disrupting the lives of everyone within earshot of your dog.

[WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat]

Could you train the parrot to tell the dog to stop barking?

[HeddaGarbled]

Shut the dog inside. The neighbours must be on the edge of breakdown what with the building work and the barking dog. Everyone in the family takes turns walking the dog every hour or two to avoid toilet accidents.

[RedRed9]

I really don’t think it’s on to just be letting your dog bark and bark.

Like a PP said, set an alarm and take him out every hour. Both you and DP need to share this responsibility.

[rookiemere]

Thanks 2pinkgins I don't want him to be behind for next term though. I feel I'm trying my best to support him but I have nothing left to give if I don't police his room every hour he goes on his game. I just don't want all this to destroy his life chances.

[Rosebel]

Are your son (although tbf he wasn't moaning) and husband unable to open the door? That's sad.
Don't worry I cried in front of the midwife yesterday. I think everyone is more emotional just praying that as infection and death rate go down things go back to normal (ish).

[ZeroFuchsGiven]

Why are people jumping on the DH here? Op said he came down in his towel wanting to know why op had not brought the dog in as it would be upsetting the neighbours. Sounds like he was in the bath or shower and had to come down to get the dog in as op was just ignoring it.

[IntermittentParps]

Your DH could try doing his share with the dog. In the time he took to remonstrate with you he could have opened the door and brought the dog in himself.
However, your dog should be trained and handled not to bark so much. It's antisocial and not acceptable.

[2pinkginsplease]

@rookiemere he won’t be behind, my friend is a teacher and said that some children complete all work set, some do a handful of assignments whereas there is a huge percentage that have done zero school work set.

He needs to take responsibility for his own school work or when exams come round he won’t know where to begin.

[SoupDragon]

@ZeroFuchsGiven

Why are people jumping on the DH here? Op said he came down in his towel wanting to know why op had not brought the dog in as it would be upsetting the neighbours. Sounds like he was in the bath or shower and had to come down to get the dog in as op was just ignoring it.

They're probably jumping on him because he is a man. It doesn't matter that he was in the shower and the OP was in the kitchen with the back door open ignoring the dog (who is apparently allowed to bark constantly)

[Xiaoxiong]

rookie I have had to turn on the parental controls on my DS's computer and blocked a number of websites (including youtube) and also a daily screen time limit on a particular game. Could you do that with your DS?

[SoupDragon]

Anyone else feeling weepy at everything?

Yes. Although I have to hold it in because it's just me and the kids. Just had my summer flights cancelled and I just want to curl up somewhere and cry. I knew we weren't going but I needed the hope that not knowing for certain gave.

It's a really stressful time for everyone. Having to live and work in the same space as schooling is really not an ideal set up.

Everyone needs to cut each other a bit of slack as everyone is struggling one way or another.

[vanillandhoney]

I assume DH was in the shower if he came down with a towel around his waist - not sure why everyone is telling him to get his arse in gear for it!

However our neighbours leave their dog outside to bark and it's so, so distracting. If your dog can't be left out without barking then I am sorry, but he needs to be brought inside - it's not fair on the neighbours. The odd bark is fine but you were home and could hear him, but left him to it anyway.

Get a baby gate over the door so you can keep the door open and keep the dog inside. If he's not good at asking to go out, then set regular alarms and let him out to do his business. Not fair to inflict your barking dog on the neighbours just because he's not properly toilet trained.

However, all that being said I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes it just takes one thing to set you off - be kind to yourself

[TheOrigBrave]

Anyone else feeling weepy at everything?

The final straw for me a few weeks ago was when my tiger baton fell out of the wrapper in Tesco. The assistant, who had just remonstrated with me for not joining the queue for the tills (I just hadn't realised there was a snaking queue all down the booze aisle), asked if I wanted another and I just burst into tears and said "I just want to get out of here".

Thankfully I've been able to do click and collect since then.

[TheVanguardSix]

Poor DH. I'm assuming he doesn't have thumbs, which would explain his inability to open a door for the dog.

[pastabest]

This is me daily.

DP's life hasn't changed at all in lockdown, he is self employed in a job that he doesn't have any contact with others in, he is out of the house most of the day but comes back at lunchtime.

Meanwhile I'm stuck at home with non napping 2yo and a 3yo trying to do my very difficult and stressful public sector critical worker job on the phone.

DP has no concept of just how difficult it is and constantly critical that I'm 'not coping'. Apparently I just need to get to bed earlier/be more organised/ just ignore the children/ do more with the children/ develop magical powers. Any suggestion that he could take on some of the burden results in a flounce.

I'm constantly at boiling over point and have lost it a few times with him to absolutely no effect. I'm not sure we will survive this, I've lost all respect for him as a partner.

I'm pretty sure I'm depressed, I'm on the verge of tears constantly. I've definitely developed some sort of stress induced anxiety and I can't sleep at night no matter how early I go to bed.

I should probably go off sick (can't be furloughed) but then that leaves my caseload of vulnerable people with no support.

[vanillandhoney]

@TheVanguardSix

Poor DH. I'm assuming he doesn't have thumbs, which would explain his inability to open a door for the dog.

He came down the stairs with a towel around his waist - so presumably he was in the shower or bath at the time.

I know MN likes to believe men are shits no matter what, but he can't exactly be in the shower and out in the garden letting the dog in at the same time

[StatementKnickers]

Sorry you've had a bad day. Your DH is a dick, but you guys need to train your dog not to bark so much.

[GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]

Why would you not stop the dog barking to avoid disrupting your DS's 'important exam'? And your neighbours? And why would the parrot squawking make you cry?

If DP was in the shower/bath, how is he supposed to sort this out?

[ZeroFuchsGiven]

@TheVanguardSix

Poor DH. I'm assuming he doesn't have thumbs, which would explain his inability to open a door for the dog.

The DH was in the bath and op said the door was open! She just decided to let the dog bark rather than call it in.

[RandomMess]

How old are you?

Could you be more emotional as peri-menopausal? Seriously it's like teen hormones all over again 😳

[RandomMess]

BTW the builders would drive me crazy too