To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping

[Aberforthsgoat]

I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.

[GabsAlot]

everyone on sm are sticking up for you OP noone is saying you're wrong

[Minxmumma]

OP, you are very much not alone in this and they are totally out of order for trying to shame you into participating.

As a rule I am in the midst of bedtime battles with the 3yo at 8pm so the last thing I am going to do is take her outside to get excited and woken right up. My street are getting silly with it, going up and down the road like a little marching band of pan bangers. I wouldn't mind but 90% of them don't work and are seen carrying their open can of special brew on the morning school run in normal times.

We all have different ways of showing our appreciation for all key workers and not everyone wants or needs to be seen doing so.

[mortforya]

What kind of a pathetic person names and Shames somebody with intent to humiliate them, please humour me and post a link to this Facebook page 😅

[CambsAlways]

Most of us on our road clap every week and we have nhs workers on same road they appreciate what we do, but never in million years would any of us name and shame someone who didn’t clap, absolutely ridiculous, it says so much about the poster that did this, how pathetic

[CD41]

This is awful. You don’t have to clap. I didn’t last week as the kids were desperate for an early night (they’ve not been nodding off until 9-10) and I was putting them to bed! we did this week but we don’t make it obvious.

Also, how do they know? Are they watching your house? That’s just weird.

Its not obvious we clap. We do it in the back garden. I think most people do it out front so the neighbours can see. I refuse to do it out the front DS has autism and can trust him not to attempt to run off. So yeah they probably think we don’t clap!

[Fishfingersandwichplease]

My mum has got an arsehole neighbour who made a sarky comment during the clapping cos she told another neighbour she has a frontline NHS worker in the family. Just don't know who these taunts think they are trying to run the hood. Fuck em OP your son was more important at the time.

[LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset]

Fair enough thistimeofyear but are you judging those who don't?

[thistimeofyear]

I clap because while I’m doing it I think of the brave NHS workers and all those people who have tragically died. I find it incredibly emotional. It also helps me feel closer to my neighbourhood as I live alone and don’t see anyone else any other time. It reminds me that I am part of a community and all it takes us a couple of minutes. I do it because I want to - for all these reasons - it always beings me to tears but also makes me feel so much more connected

[Simcat]

Op, I’d be the same as you as to wether you should reply. But in this case I would reply and just be honest that you missed it. I would also state that it’s not on to intimidate anyone esp as they don’t know the reasons. I’d name and shame them with their behaviour as not on regardless of the good intentions people have. Hope you’re ok.

[MonkeyToesOfDoom]

Thanks YourDaughter

Ops nothing to be ashamed of, the people on FB posting such witch huntery bollocks should be the ones ashamed.

[Noextremes2017]

Are we all supposed to act like a trained Sea Lion?

[LudaMusser]

I'd be going round to the house

[YourDaughter]

Here you go @monkey

news.sky.com/story/coronavirus-woman-named-and-shamed-by-neighbours-on-facebook-for-not-joining-clap-for-carers-11978192

[SeasonFinale]

Yes unfortunately your story comes up on the MSN newsfeed when I turned my laptop on so I would suggest that you do post as the pp above suggested.

www.msn.com/en-gb/news/newsbirmingham/mum-mortified-after-being-shamed-by-neighbours-over-not-clapping-for-nhs-carers/ar-BB138RQA?ocid=spartandhp

[MonkeyToesOfDoom]

lightnesspixie
Got a link?

[Vynalbob]

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I'm so sorry I had a bad day I do hope your criticism stops short of naming people who have had a letter telling them to stay indoors for 12 weeks or whom you may not have noticed but left in an ambulance and are fighting for their lives in hospital.
Community spirit SS style bleeeeding xxxkers.

[lightnesspixie]

This thread made sky news 🤭

[Rachel709]

I would explain what happened then make a point of not clapping, twats.

[HeresMe]

Someone on a street I know put it was shameful that the street wasnt clapping, I told them they were shameful and judgemental and if they want enforced clapping to bugger off to North Korea, didn't get a reply.

[pollymere]

Tbh...I think all key workers should get an honorarium payment instead...the ten grand paid to MPs would be nice...

[Motherofasleepaphobe]

DH is NHS, point blank refuses to join in with the clapping
Strangely enough our ndn is also NHS and she has never joined in either, other than next door nobody on our street knows DH is nhs - I imagine they’d be slagging him off to the hilt
It’s not compulsory (and tbh if you’ve got young kids it’s a stupid time to co-inside with bedtimes/not wanting to wake up already sleeping child)
Just ignore them op

[pollymere]

Sorry, that's hilarious. Come and live on my street. Very few, if any turn out. Why? Because we're a street of hard working key workers who are risking our lives without PPE but don't get a mention.

And it was decided long ago that Clap for Carers sounds like a gonorrhoea offer.

[Wanderlust21]

It's a load of attention seeking nonsense now anyway. I'd be more inclined to judge those who feel the need to go outside to do it. It was nice the first time, now it's fake as fuck.

[Billben]

I’m a care worker. I have never clapped for anybody and I don’t need anybody clapping for me either.

[user1485851222]

I would respond on the same social media site. "For those of you that commented and agreed that I was out of order by not clapping on Thursday. I shouldn't have to explain, but here goes, after a tiring day, I fell a sleep before 8pm with my child. How dreadful of me. I didn't think I would be named and shamed by my neighbours. Probably the same people who liked comments over the last few months, about, if you can be anything, be kind. Such a shame that at this time, people felt a need to comment. Now I can't win, if I am out this thursday, you will think it is because of your comments, if I don't are you going to shame me again? Well shame on you if you commented or liked. Feel free to discuss face to face if you wish.