To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping

[Aberforthsgoat]

I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.

[Scarlettlmc]

I should hope that these so called supporters are actively campaigning for NHS friendly policies after this crisis. What disgusting people to do something like that. They have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. Clapping is a nice sentiment but nothing in comparison to the many cuts the NHS has suffered over the years and there are lots of other ways people can show their support

[PhilSwagielka]

YANBU OP, I used to work in admin for the NHS, I've got a couple of aunties who are former nurses and I don't clap. I pay for the NHS through my taxes, I socially distance, and it has generally been good to me and my family, and I do appreciate it. But I don't like how the clapping has become this big official thing. It's like wearing poppies and it puts me off. We are a nation full of nasty little curtain-twitchers. To use a phrase I hate, it's virtue signalling. It might make a few people feel good and I know some NHS staff appreciate it, but it will do nothing in the long term. And if you're gathering in big groups to clap, like the idiots at Westminster Bridge, you're missing the point. You know how else you could support the NHS? By STAYING HOME. It's up to people whether they want to clap or not. I don't like being pressured to do things I don't want to. And once lockdown is over, people will go back to treating NHS/care staff like shit.

Also, I'm autistic and while it doesn't send me into sensory overload, I know other autistic people who dread it for that reason. I can imagine if you've got little kids who go to bed then, it risks waking them up.

[Trio33]

... also great name .... I presume you're a Harry Potter fan like me 😄

[Trio33]

Dear Aberforthsgoat, I have just joined Mumsnet solely to reply to you. I work for the NHS as it happens, but not in the front line. I think what your stupid selfish narrow minded neighbour did to you was despicable, misguided, and downright slanderous. She is clearly a sub standard human being. She does not deserve a single thought from you. Think instead of the many many more people in the UK and as far as America who have taken to the newspapers and social media to tell you, albeit anonymously, that YOU are in the right, and SHE is so far in the wrong that she would have a nervous breakdown because of the backlash from people all over if SHE ever gets named and shamed.

I do hope she has read some of the things people are saying about her!

With best wishes to you and your son from a concerned Mum in Cumbria.

[BayandBlonde]

This has made LBC. They were talking about this very post earlier today.

OP i clapped on the first night, haven't done again since. I appreciate the NHS and everything they do but I don't need to bang my saucepans every Thursday night!

[LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset]

*I also find the hypocrisy sickening, a good proportion of those people out clapping voted Tory, the party that has been underfunding and selling off the NHS for years...
*
Abso-fcucking-lutely. This salient fact seems to be whizzing over a lot of people's heads. The hypocrisy is staggering.

[Dreadwitch]

THey'd have a field day with me then. I clapped the first time but not since, I felt like an utter numpty standing in my doorway clapping like a performing seal...once was more than enough for me. I also find the hypocrisy sickening, a good proportion of those people out clapping voted Tory, the party that has been underfunding and selling off the NHS for years, that vote was a yes to low wages, low funding, no PPE. Now they stand and clap as if that absolves them all.
I also don't see how on earth clapping does anything, the staff know we appreciate them...clapping won't get them PPE and save their lives which is what they actually want. Anyway just ask how many of the people on your street voted 'to get Brexit done' last year....they're the ones that should be named and shamed.

[Taliya]

Are your neighbours for real. It's up to you whether you clap or not. They sound like bullies if they are naming and shaming you on facebook. Some people!🙄

[Thismummyruns]

Oh my word. That is shocking, how dare they!

The best ones near me are the ones who make it in to a show each week egging each other on via the community page, then posting themselves on the page afterwards.
These very same people (a number of different houses) have had visitors weekly one of which works for the NHS & chatting in the street with no social distancing. The irony

[anothernotherone]

Doesn't the pot bashing and music blasting wake up NHS shift workers trying to sleep around their shift pattern?

[Tumbledryer1]

I don’t clap. Not because I don’t appreciate the nhs and all keyworker but 8pm is usually a time I’m busy with kids or other stuff. I would respond and say it’s not compulsory and you were busy making an online donation to your chosen frontline charity as you believe this is more beneficial than hitting a saucepan with a wooden spoon for 5 minutes 🙄

[Echo08]

Op i am a community carer and i don't clap so please don't feel bad they are ignorant arses .I would answer but then i am outspoken and direct .I am shattered at the moment when i come in from work i want to sleep .I have an amazing boss and a fantastic team i work with , we all work really hard .Because i don't clap doesn't mean i don't respect key workers and the nhs just at 8pm, they are all amazing but if i not working i want to sleep.

[areallthenamesusedup]

Let us hope all those that are out on a Thursday night remember their feelings of appreciation and ensure when all this is over fair pay for those in NHS and social care.
Since 2010, the average salary for a nurse has fallen by 8% based on the consumer prices index (CPI) – or by £2,646 in real terms, according to the Royal College of Nurses (RCN).
And I am reminded both Boris Johnson & Matt Hancock voted against ending the nurses pay freeze in 2017.

[RuffleCrow]

This is why i don't like this enforced two minutes gratitude each week. I feel like they'll be polling streets in a few years to find out who loves the NHS enough to qualify for treatment.

[ddl1]

Of course not. And how on earth does this neighbour know exactly who is clapping and who isn't, if she's maintaining full social distancing! Sounds like a nasty gossip, who would use something else if it wasn't this!

[Teddybear27]

I know this was a few days ago but it is entirely voluntary. You don't have to do it if you don't want to or are not able to. I like clapping but not everyone is able to do it. I have friends who are putting children to bed at that time so are unable.
The way you have been treated by a couple of your neighbours is dreadful.....I hope you are ok about it now and you do what you want... ❤️

[ToftyAC]

Sometimes I clap, sometimes I’m putting my son to bed. I’m absolutely outraged on your behalf OP. Some people are just arses. Who the fuck do they think they are?

[Ilovesunshine22]

I would definitely reply and say them you fell asleep and have clapped every night then they will feel like the complete fools they are.
Name and shame them for being bullies and singling you out without knowing the reason!

[Barney60]

I work in a hospital. I dont clap. What good does it REALLY do? id rather say thankyou to those that work there than stand outside clapping. as all previous posts I agree, in fact id make it my mission to NOT clap now, I have a problem with supposed do gooders telling me what to do, , ohhh am getting myself all mad on your behalf!

[pembs]

Im not clapping. I did the first week but feel it's become an excuse for a neighbourhood's catch up and it no longer has any meaning. I feel i shouldn't be told how i should show my appreciation for the key workers, that's for me to decide what to do. Id lose my shit if i was named and shamed on social media although i have read comments from my own street that not everyone is out... no im not!!!! Btw im a key worker myself

[Hoysin]

I am furious about this! You should reply to him! Even just post a link to the Sky News report.
I'm sure my neighbours are coming closer and closer to my house each week with their pans and wooden spoons! It is certainly getting louder.
One of my neighbours, who already thought he was the boss of the street, blasted "I Vow to thee My Country" on repeat for 3 hours before the clap on Thursday.
It's pointless and patronising.
I now absolutely dread Thursday evenings.

[SociallyDistant]

Or maybe they just don't want to but feel they must have an 'acceptable' excuse to avoid the scorn of judgypants neighbours? As a one off I thought it was ok but It's all sounding rather Soviet now.

[Bounceyflouncey]

I would rather minimum wage carers recieved a fair wage to be honest, they have been absolutely thrown to the wolves and most are on minimum wage, it's disgraceful.

[Sassanacs]

@lily2403 exactly, pay them fairly to reflect the job they do and provide them with the tools and resources to do their job safely.